The clitoris is one of the greatest sources of pleasure that women can have.
That’s because the clit is the only organ whose sole purpose is to make you feel good. It’s also the most sensitive of the erogenous zones. This is due to its high concentration of nerve endings, thousands upon thousands in fact. And with all those nerve endings just begging for attention, you can only imagine the possibilities when they’re all fired up.
But finding the clitoris can be one of life’s biggest mysteries, and it really shouldn’t be. Since many women need clitoral stimulation to orgasm, locating this sensitive spot is important for their sexual satisfaction. However, it turns out that many guys (and even some women) don’t have a clear understanding of where the clitoris actually is. So, before you go on a pleasure hunt, we’re giving you a good place to start as you set out to search for the clit.
Where Is The Clitoris?
So just where is the clit?
First off, it’s important to know what comprises the external female anatomy, or vulva, so you can familiarize yourself with a woman’s most private parts. Plus, it can act as a road map to guide you right to that sweet spot.
- Mons Pubis: This area, also called the pubic mound, is the fatty area in front of the pubic bones. Depending on grooming preferences, it is typically covered in pubic hair after puberty, which provides cushioning during sex. This area also releases pheromones which aid in sexual attraction.
- Labia majora: Like the mons pubis, these large outer lips are also covered with hair upon puberty and the fleshy folds help protect the other parts of vulva. The labia majora contains oil and sweat glands, which produce lubricating secretions.
- Labia minora: Located inside the labia majora, these smaller lips surround the opening of the vagina and urethra. They contain a large amount of blood vessels which can become engorged when stimulated and make this area more sensitive to touch.
- Clitoris: Where the folds of the labia minora meet you will find the clit. Covered by the clitoral hood, or prepuce, this small and rounded glan is the source of female pleasure and important in achieving orgasm thanks to its thousands of nerve endings.
- Vaginal opening: Your vaginal opening is the entrance to the vagina which serves as the female reproductive tract.
- Urethra: The urethra is located above the opening to the vagina and is where urine comes out.
5 Steps To Find Her Clitoris
- If she’s lying on her back in bed and you’re looking directly at her vagina, then just look up. (Or use a mirror if you’re looking at your own body.)
- The clit is located approximately 1 to 2 inches directly above the vagina and looks like a small bump. The tricky part is that the clit is partially covered by a small fleshy area known as the clitoral hood.
- The clit might be completely covered or partially exposed, it varies from woman to woman. You may need to place a hand on the top of the pubic mound and lift up to expose it. And since no two people are the same, it goes for clitoris’ as well. Some are smaller, around the size of a pea, while others can look like a middle toe.
- You also want to incorporate touch when searching for the clit. Place a finger just under the pubic bone and feel for where the labia minor, or smaller inner lips, meet at the top. You should feel a raised area or bump which is the clitoris that is covered by the clitoral hood. Again, you can lift up on the skin surrounding the area to expose the tip of the clit underneath.
- As a woman becomes aroused, the clitoris grows larger and pops out of its hood. Think of it as the female version of an erection. Not only does this make the clit easier to find, but it also allows you to stimulate it more easily.
How To Stimulate The Clitoris
So, you’ve found the clit, now just what the heck do you do with it?
First and foremost, before you get down to business lube up. No matter how wet they/you get, using a lubricant ensures a smooth glide without the discomfort of friction.
- The best way to explore the clit is to let your fingers take control. You can alternate between rubbing the clitoral hood or lifting it up to get directly to the sensitive tip. Start out slowly and gently, then experiment with different types of pressure, patterns, and strokes to see what feels best.
- Another way to stimulate the clit is with a vibe. There are several out there that are specifically designed to send your love button into overdrive. Rabbit style vibes have external “ears” that tickle and buzz against the clitoris, while others like the Satisfyer “suck” the clit into them to surround it with sensations.
- Pump it up with a clit or pussy pump. These wonders target the love bud in ways most other toys can’t. By providing a sucking sensation, it often mimics the feel of cunnilingus, and some even come with the added benefit of vibrations. You can also choose a manual hand pump model, or an automatic that does the work for you. Many women use pumps during foreplay for added sensitivity, or to simply enlarge their clit. Some even orgasm from the sensations. (Hint: They work great on nipples too.)
- Then of course if you’re playing with a partner there’s the good old tongue, but just don’t go and dive straight for the clitoris. First pay some attention to the labia area, then pull back the clitoral hood and blow on that love bud. When you finally do turn your full attention to the clit, make sure to lap, lick, and use various swirls and pressures. Listen and feel the response your partner is giving. If you hear her moan in pleasure… keep it up.
Always remember that conversation is key. Discuss what feels good, what doesn’t, and what you or your partner want.
Every woman’s body responds differently, so enjoy the journey.
