Ben Wa balls are one of the most unusual sex toys you can find. While it’s fairly obvious how a vibrator or dildo works, Ben Wa balls are a little more complicated. Learn how you can use Ben Wa balls effectively so you can get the most pleasure and benefits from this specialized sex toy. 

Using Ben Wa Balls

How to Use Ben Wa Balls

Ben Wa Balls are small orbs that are inserted in the vagina. They vary in size and weight, but they're generally comparable to large marbles or small golf balls. Many women use them for performing Kegel exercises, which is why they're also known as Kegel Balls. You can also find Ben Wa Balls with free-moving weights or built-in vibrators for stimulation during masturbation.

Using Ben Wa Balls for Kegel Exercises

Women have used Ben Wa Balls to strengthen the Kegel muscles in their pelvic floor for centuries. Simply holding the weighty balls in place can give your muscles quite the workout, especially if you're jogging or doing other physical activities. The balls also provide resistance when you're squeezing your vaginal muscles. This leads to faster and more effective results than just doing Kegel exercises without any balls.

When combined with regular Kegel exercises, Ben Wa Balls increase muscle control and dexterity for enhanced pleasure during sex as well as stronger orgasms. They can make giving birth easier and help you recover faster. Kegel Balls are also great for improving bladder control and preventing incontinence. Their timed-tested success has led to many doctors recommending them for their patients.

Here's how you can start using Ben Wa Balls for Kegel exercises.

  1. Apply a generous amount of water-based lube to your Kegel Balls until they're completely covered.
  2. Lie down in a comfortable position with your legs spread apart.
  3. Insert the first ball slowly and steadily.
  4. If that feels good, then insert any cord that might connect your Ben Wa Balls along with the second ball.
  5. Push both balls and cord as deep as you're comfortable with doing while leaving the retrieval string or finger loop sticking out. This makes your Kegel Balls easy to remove when you're done.
  6. Squeeze the balls with your pelvic floor muscles for 5 seconds. (This can feel like you're peeing.)
  7. Release and let your muscles relax for 5 seconds.
  8. Squeeze and release your muscles 4 more times to complete your set of Kegel exercises.
  9. You can remove the balls with their retrieval cord or finger loop when you're finished. Simply pull them out slowly and steadily. Some women, however, prefer to leave them in place during the day. This can help intensify your workout and provide gentle stimulation as you wear them.

For best results, we recommend doing 3 sets of Kegel exercises per day, one in the morning, one in the afternoon, and one at night. The exercises are simple and discreet enough that you could easily do them in the car, during work, or binging on your favorite new show. You should start noticing results within 6-12 weeks.

Using Ben Wa Balls for Masturbation

In addition to Kegel exercises, it's also possible to use Ben Wa Balls for sexual stimulation. Simply holding the balls in place during the day can offer low-key stimulation - especially if your Ben Wa Balls have a free-moving weight inside them. This weight rolls and shifts around as you move, creating a slight shaking sensation like gentle vibrations. The more active you are, the more the weight moves.

This makes Kegel Balls ideal for foreplay. Simply insert the balls before heading out on a date. The "full" sensation from the balls combined with the jiggling weights is a great way to warm up. By the time you get back home, you'll be ready to play!

If you want to use your Kegel Balls for masturbation, then you'll really want a pair that offers more stimulation. And that means a vibrating set. Here's how you can get the fun started with a pair of vibrating Ben Wa Balls.

  1. If your balls are brand new, wash them first. Then take some time to familiarize yourself with how they feel. Make sure the balls are fully charged or have fresh batteries for peak performance.
  2. Turn them on and test the vibrations against the tip of your nose to see how strong they are and get a feeling for their power.
  3. Turn the balls off and apply water-based lube, making sure to completely cover them.
  4. Gently insert the first ball inside your vagina. If that feels good, insert the second ball as well.
  5. Turn the balls on, starting with the lowest setting. This helps your body warm up and adjust.
  6. If that feels good, then try some of the more intense vibration speeds and patterns. You can also try pulling the balls out and pressing them against your clit. Just don't do that too often. The balls work best when they're inside you.
  7. When you're finished masturbating, turn the vibrating Kegel Balls off.
  8. Remove the balls slowly and carefully using the attached retrieval cord or finger loop.
  9. Wash the balls in warm, soapy water or spray them with a sanitizing toy cleaner.
  10. Dry them off with a clean cloth before recharging them if needed.

Cleaning Ben Wa Balls

When you're finished using your Ben Wa Balls, you'll need to clean them. If you have non-vibrating balls, you can simply wash them in warm, soapy water, spray them with a sex toy cleaner, and dry them with a clean cloth. If you have vibrating balls, spray them with a sex toy cleaner, wipe them down with damp cloth, and then dry them off. This prevents the motor or battery from getting wet.

Ben Wa Balls should be stored in a cool, discreet location. If your balls are silicone, you should store them in their own bag to prevent them from coming into contact with other sex toys.

How to Choose Ben Wa Balls

When shopping for Kegel balls, there are four important things to keep in mind. First, is how you plan to use them. If you want them primarily for Kegel exercises, then you're better off with a non-vibrating pair. If you want to use them for masturbation in addition to exercising, then you should get some that vibrate.

Next, we strongly recommend buying Ben Wa Balls that come with a retrieval cord or finger ring, so you can remove them easily. This is absolutely essential for beginners and intermediate users. Only buy stand-alone balls if you've got extensive experience with using them and you're not worried about removing them.

Make sure your Kegel Balls are made from a firm material like glass, metal, or dense silicone. The firm material provides resistance when you squeeze them for a more effective workout.

It might seem counter-intuitive, but bigger, lighter-weight balls are better for beginners. Bigger Ben Wa Balls are easier to hold in place and squeeze with your muscles, and their lighter weight is easier to manage. Small and heavy balls are harder to hold, which is why they're intended for more advanced users.

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