Getting Started with Bondage

Bondage Basics

So, now you want to try something new and a little more risqué? Bondage may be just the answer for you. You may ask now, what is bondage exactly? Bondage is a form of facilitating pleasure by restraining your partner. You can totally or partially immobilize a person’s body. There are various things you can use such as rope, handcuffs, collars, and weights in bondage.

 

Why would people use bondage in sex? Some feel this is a form of meditation. Others enjoy the role playing where you have one person who is the dominant and the other person is the submissive. Many enjoy bondage because they like the feeling of letting someone else being in control of them. They get pleasure from being bound and can reach ecstasy during bondage play. Bondage is sometimes considered a fetish but is practiced by many, many people and in many countries. In some countries it has even developed into an art form such as in Japan.

Getting Started with Bondage

A great first step in bondage is restraints. Restraints can be in the form of silk scarves, specialty ropes and sex tape or restraint kits. Some basic playful bondage would include binding the submissive’s hands together behind or in front of the body allowing them to have control over their legs and feet. You can also bind the sub’s arms to their body with a sex tape again allowing them to maintain control of their lower extremities. These are examples of very basic bondage that involves restraining the sub’s hands.

If you’re comfortable with simple restraints you can move on to somewhat more advanced bondage which involves binding the sub to an object (door frame) or piece of furniture (bed or chair). You can accomplish this type of bondage with soft ropes, tethers, sex tape or restraint kits. Try tying your lover’s hands to your headboard and feet to the footboard of your bed. Ladies you can bind your man to a chair and ride him to your heart or pussy’s content. There is also the option of door frame restraints; these allow you to slip the wrist restraints over the door so when the door is closed the sub is bound to it.

There are several knots you can learn to tie (you scouts out there have an advantage), styles and positions also. There are many educational videos such as “Nina Hartley’s Guide to Bondage” that can demonstrate these for you.

Once you’ve chosen how you want to restrain your lover you can try some kinky play; gentle spanking, running a feather tickler over their body or you can “paint” them with edible paints. They’ll enjoy you licking it off as much as you do. Try blindfolding your partner too, the suspense of what you’re going to do next is incredibly erotic and a huge turn on.

Bondage Safety

There are always a few rules that need to be followed when engaging in bondage that are very important.

  • • Open communication and discussion between the couple
  • • Discuss likes and dislikes before starting
  • • Clear and absolute consent before beginning
  • • Have fun

Communication is the most important part of sex and especially so when practicing bondage. That said safety needs to be the top priority in bondage. There can be a risk of injury if some basic steps are not followed.

Body Restraints:

  • • Never restrain anyone by the neck; this should be a given but still needs to be said.
  • • Chest restraints must allow plenty of room for the person to be able to breathe. Make sure you can easily slide your fingers between the chest and the strap.

Extremity Restraints:

  • • Hands and feet restraints must allow good circulation in these limbs. A way to judge this is to ensure there is space for at least one finger to go between the binds and skin.
  • • Have a pair of shears or scissors accessible to be able to cut the binds in case of an emergency.

Handcuffs:

  • • Test the keys BEFORE placing handcuffs the person. Make sure also that the handcuffs you are using are of a good quality. There are now in fact, specialty handcuffs you can buy that have a lighted key to be able to easily find.
  • • Always place the keys in plain sight for the submissive to be able to see and always have a spare set of keys in case a set gets lost. You really don’t want to have to call a locksmith to assist you with getting free.

Safe Words

Always have a predetermined set of safe words. For example; like the colors of the stop light; if a person were to say yellow it would mean caution. Red would mean stop. Now if a person says to stop then it needs to be followed immediately. At any time that you also see a person in discomfort, you need to stop. Also, NEVER leave a person who is bound unattended. Bondage is not just about sex but about trust, if you‘re a dominant you must instill in your partner that they can trust you explicitly. If you’re a sub you must be able to trust that your dom will take care of you.

Many couples want to imitate the couples they see in the movies, however this is unadvisable. The actors in adult movies are professionals and are surrounded by a lot people who can give assistance if needed. Some performers have practiced a bondage lifestyle for years and have advanced knowledge. But they too were beginners once, so start slow, discover what you enjoy and continue your bondage practice. Never try to push your partner to try something that will be uncomfortable and don’t agree to an activity or bind that you’re uncomfortable with. Bondage will not only enhance your sex life but can also enhance your relationship.

Bondage is something that needs to be enjoyed by both participants. It’s a new way to find some new things that can arouse your partner and lead to new heights of pleasure. But, as always, follow the safety rules so it’s ecstatic for all concerned.

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