4 Simple Tricks for a Better Blowjob

Depth, pace, touch, and finish are four simple tricks for a better blowjob. How deep you go, how you vary pace and position, how and if you touch the testicles, and where you choose to finish can all change from one time to the next, so the trick is to find what feels good to both of you.

Adding in a few flavored gels, kits, and toys can also make trying new things easier, more comfortable, and cut down on jaw fatigue.

Pace, depth, and position are easy things to change at any point along the way, and either person can ask to slow down, speed up, or switch things up whenever they want.

With that in mind, there are two common ways to approach depth. One is a hands-free, mouth-only technique, using head and body movement to control how deep you go. The other combines the hand and mouth, with a hand working the base or shaft while the mouth works the tip. This lets you control pressure and depth more precisely and can ease strain on the jaw. Some people prefer the fuller sensation of a hands-free approach, and others prefer the control and variety a combined technique offers. Trying both, and noticing what your partner responds to, helps you find out which one, or both, you like best.

Position matters too. Lying down, kneeling, or sitting at the edge of a bed or chair each change the angle, and small shifts like tilting your head or changing where your hands rest can make a familiar position feel different. Varying your tempo, speeding up, slowing down, and pausing here and there, is often more interesting than holding one constant rhythm.

Whichever technique you lean toward, a few product choices can change how it feels. If you like keeping a hand involved, a flavored lube adds glide and taste. And if a strong gag reflex is part of what makes things tricky, a product marketed to reduce gag sensitivity is worth looking at. Here are some options to consider:

Goodhead Ultimate BJ Delight Kit is a set of five 1-ounce flavored, water-based gels, among them strawberry, cherry, chocolate mint, cotton candy, and cinnamon. The gels are body-safe, paraben-free, and sugar-free, and they clean up with warm water and soap, so switching between plain and flavored is an easy swap depending on what you're in the mood for.

GoodHead Sensations Oral Pleasure Kit is a six-piece set: a flavored spray, a flavored gel, tingle drops, a cooling spray, a warming gel, and a vibrating ring. The numbing spray's active ingredient is benzocaine, which the manufacturer markets as a way to reduce gag sensitivity. That can make deeper or longer oral sex more comfortable for some people, but a numbed mouth and throat can also dull the signal that it's time to slow down or stop, so pace and check-ins still matter even when you're using it. The kit is paraben-free, sugar-free, PETA-certified, and made in the USA.

Handipop Edible Handjob Massage Gel is a water-based, edible, flavored gel made for massage and hand stimulation, in flavors like strawberry, orange creamsicle, green apple, blueberry muffin, cotton candy, and mango smoothie. It's designed to work well alongside a masturbation sleeve or a vibrating toy if you want to bring a toy into the mix.

GoodHead Fundamentals Oral Sex kit is a four-piece set: a flavored gel, tingle drops, tingling mints, and a textured stroker accessory. Like the Sensations kit, the tingling mints contain a mild anesthetic marketed to suppress the gag reflex, so the same comfort note applies. Reduced sensation can help, but it can also mask a signal to pause.

Touch, comfort, and consent matter just as much as any technique. Pressure that feels good to one partner can feel like too much to another, so starting light and asking something like "harder or softer?" tells you quickly what your partner wants, especially if you're including the testicles.

The same openness applies to where you finish. It helps to talk about it beforehand so nobody is caught off guard, and either person can change their mind in the moment. Swallowing, finishing elsewhere, or using a condom throughout are all options so go with what you both are comfortable with.

According to the CDC's current guidance on preventing STIs, oral sex does carry some risk of passing sexually transmitted infections between partners, so using a condom correctly and consistently is one of the clearest ways to lower that risk.

One idea that still floats around is that deep-throating is the measure of a "good" blowjob, or something to work toward as a goal. It isn't. Plenty of people never deep-throat and still give and receive blowjobs they genuinely enjoy, and plenty of people who can deep-throat don't always want to. How deep you go is a preference, not a benchmark, and a good blowjob can work just fine without it.

It's also normal for your jaw or mouth to get tired, especially if things go on for a while or get more intense. That's a cue to pause, not push through. Taking a break to stretch your jaw, switch to a hand-only technique for a minute, or just rest before continuing is an ordinary part of giving a blowjob.

When you're ready to spice up your oral play, Adam & Eve's oral sex toys category covers flavored lubes, oral sex kits, and playful accessories together, so you can compare options and pick whatever matters most to you and your partner.