A strap-on is a harness and dildo that can be worn together for penetrative sex. The strap-on harness fits around your waist and upper thighs like a large belt or thong. A ring typically slips around the dildo's shaft and attaches to the harness, allowing the wearer to use it on their partner. A flared base holds the dildo in place, while extra buckles and adjustable straps keep the harness from shifting around during sex.
There are few exceptions to this strap-on definition. Some harnesses use a vacuum seal or a proprietary system for a more secure fit. Some strap-ons don’t even need a separate harness at all. These strapless strap-ons are held in place with a woman’s Kegel muscles.
Many lesbian couples use strap-ons to experiment with sexual penetration as well as G-Spot stimulation. They're also great toys for transgender people. More and more straight couples are using strap-ons for pegging. This is a sexual practice that reverses the traditional roles in the bedroom. The female partner uses a strap-on to become the “top”, so she can have anal sex with her male partner who’s the “bottom.”
Men with erectile dysfunction use strap-ons as a reliable method for satisfying their partners. Other men who aren’t satisfied with their size have also turned to strap-ons, which are more reliable and perform better than penis sleeves or extensions. Sex toy makers have even started making strap-ons for men. These male-friendly strap-ons feature hollowed-out dildos that fit over the penis for a more comfortable fit.
How to Use a Strap-On
Strap-ons might look complicated, but they're surprisingly easy to use and enjoy. Just keep these simple tips in mind, and you'll be pumping away in no time!
1. Test drive your strap-on
If you're using a strap-on for the first time, then you should try it on beforehand. Make sure the dildo or vibrator fits securely into the harness. Figure out how to put on the harness so that all the different straps are in the correct place. Then try thrusting your hips, so you can see how it feels and works. You'll probably need to adjust the straps or buckles for a more secure fit.
2. Talk about it with your partner
Strap-ons aren't the kind of sex toy you can just surprise your lover with. They can be scary and intimidating for beginners, so it's best to talk about using one with your partner in advance. Tell them why you want to try using a strap-on. Talk with them about how it works and what you can do with it. Let them see and feel the harness and dildo for themselves. Put it on in front of them.
3. Use plenty of lube
Make sure to use plenty of lube with your strap-on. We strongly recommend using a water-based anal lube, even during vaginal usage. Anal lubes are thicker and longer-lasting than regular lubes, which makes them a much better fit for strap-on sex toys.
4. Stick to classic sex positions
If there's some wild Kama Sutra position you've been dying to try out, now is not the time to do it. When you're using a strap-on, you should stick to tried and true sex positions like missionary and doggy. These positions are great for thrusting without applying too much stress or pressure on the harness.
Are Strap-Ons Safe?
If you've been thinking about using strap-ons, you might have questions about their safety. Since you can't actually feel the artificial penis strapped to your pelvis, you might be worried about accidentally hurting your partner. Well, you can rest assured that strap-on sex toys are completely safe as long as you follow these simple precautions.
Check & double-check your straps
When it comes to using the harness safely, good-fitting straps are essential. The straps should fit snugly enough to hold the strap-on dildo and harness in place without being tight enough to cut off your circulation. Your dildo and harness will have some slight movement. But if they’re shifting and sliding all around your hips and crotch, the straps aren’t tight enough. This safety tip is essential to keep everything securely in place and make sure you can maintain control.
Communicate during sex
Since you can’t actually feel what’s happening, you need to keep a close eye on your partner's reactions. This means asking them questions during sex to make sure that everything feels good as well as observing their body language if they’re not very vocal. As always, you should be prepared to stop at a moment’s notice if something doesn’t feel right, especially while attempting anal.
Above all, remember to have fun!
