A&E's Resident Sex Expert: Dr. Kat (continued)

Your questions answered Dr. Kat Van Kirk, an AASECT certified Sex Therapist and licensed Marriage Therapist. This month's question is…

Q&A: Sexy First Holiday Gifts

Dear Dr. Kat,

This is my first holiday with my new boyfriend. I want to get him/us something sexy but not over the top. What do you recommend?

Sincerely,
Tia

Hi Tia,

I might suggest something along the line of sensuals first and/or couples' friendly toys with a first time sexy gift. This can be a great way to let him know that you are ready to keep things fun and spicy without creating a lot of expectation. Here's what I'm thinking…

3-In-1 Suntouched Massage Candle
One of my favorite products of all time. It's a candle, massage oil and lube all in one. Create a sensual experience with even a little gentle wax dropping. This product assumes nothing but gives you plenty of options.

Massage Seductions Game
A date night with no plan? This is a fun sexy adult game that takes the onus off of both of you by creating fun and sexy responses and behaviors to play with.

Fingo's Tingly Finger Vibrator
Use for pressure point massage or work into both of your erogenous zones. Finger vibes and help to make sure you get clitoral stimulation in regardless of position too.

Adam and Eve Couple's Enhancer Ring
Non intimidating pleasure for the both of you that will help ensure that your clitoris never gets missed. He also gets the benefit of sublime vascularity, harder erections and vibration. Many men seem to be more open to couples toys upfront because they are more inclusive and less intimidating.

Any of these products can help you set up a good foundation for your sex life. And research has shown that if you have good communication about sex, you're more than likely to be able communicate well about other sensitive topics, like family, finance etc.

Happy Holidays,

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Guilty Pleasures: Erotic Fiction (continued)

What's so special about giving your lover a bath? Lots of things. Aside from providing a totally relaxed environment for both of you, the experience allows you to explore a more sensual expression of your desires.

If you have the whole evening to play, you may really want to go all out. For example, you can set the tone by using candles. Use all shapes, sizes and colors, placing them on plates and holders. Have some music ready to play. Whether it's your favorite indie band, some hip-hop, or classical piano, let it echo the mood you wish to create. Decide ahead of time if you want to have food and drink available.

Lay out big fluffy towels for after the bath. They will really come in handy to cushion the bathroom floor if you find that the bedroom is just too far away. When your lover steps out of the water, just wrap them up in a big fuzzy robe as you bundle them off to your candle-lit bedroom. As for you, dress for the occasion! Something simple and sexy. Maybe add a slave collar and cuffs as you serve their every whim tonight?

Don't think that the bath ends when your lover gets ready to step out of the tub. Now is the perfect time to move the action from soft and sensual to something more. Slowly use your mouth and hands to tease them to the brink of orgasm as you towel them off.

Or, you could extend the slow-moving feeling a little longer by leading them to bed for a tension-dissolving massage. Try using one of the warming lubes or your favorite lotion. There are also oils available in almost any flavor you can think of. My favorite is vanilla almond.

In my relationship with my husband, bathing is something we do for each other, not often, but whenever one of us feels that the other needs that extra bit of attention. Last Friday after work, I met him at the door with a glass of his favorite wine and guided him into our bedroom. Slowly, I undressed him and listened to his troubles as I ran the bath. Then, I led him into the bathroom and helped him into the tub. Hubby groaned with contentment as he sank into the steamy bubbles. The music I selected on Spotify was perfect and the flickering candles cast a seductive glow on our bodies. I stripped down and wrapped a towel around my waist before topping off his wine and feeding him brie and crackers. Honestly, he would've loved beer and pretzels every bit as much!

I could feel the tension leave his body as I soaped his arms and shoulders. By the time I had worked my way down to his stiffening cock, he was almost growling with pleasure. Cool. First I soaped it up with my hands, pumping his hardness slowly and sensuously. Then I moved down to his full balls and got them all slippery with suds. Next, I used a soft sponge to rinse his penis off. Seeing his aroused state in the dim light made my pussy ache to be touched, but I was determined to be patient. I knew what would come later. Meanwhile, my husband was having a great time soaping up my titties and rinsing the bubbles off. That stuff never gets old with him!

While he lay on his stomach, I worked a massage oil into the muscles of his shoulders and arms. Darling hubbs has a darker, more olive complexion than me and a beautiful ass, so I really got into kneading his slippery cheeks. I continued down his legs and massaged his feet before having him turn over onto his back.

I straddled his waist and started rubbing the oil into his chest and neck. My breasts bounced as I worked to ease the tension in his muscles. Work has made him really tense this week! I licked my upper lip a little and discovered I could not stop myself from rubbing my clit against his taut belly as I got hornier by the second. I massaged down his tummy, to the inside of this thighs, and licked my way back to his now rock-hard love bone. I sucked his thick stick into my eager mouth.

He pulled me up to him, squirted some warm oil on my breasts and then pushed me back down to his crotch. I knew what he wanted. Without fail, he always loves to slide it between my tits. With oil all over my breasts, it would cause a lot of extra sensations. I slid back and forth as he held my quivering breasts close around his glistening erection and played with my erect nipples.

Here we go! He pulled me up onto his slick member. I rode him hard while my breasts took on a life of their own, swaying each time I slammed back on his rigid pole. Soon, my orgasm hit me in wave after glorious wave.

He slid me up further until my puss was over his lapping tongue. He reached for the 8-inch vibrator we keep in the night-stand. As he snacked on my naughty bits, he slid the sex toy in and out of my throbbing kitty. Next, from out of nowhere, he began popping his oiled finger in and out of the entry to my ass. That's right, now I knew that he would soon push more of that finger up my rear and I could hardly wait. When he finally did stick it in my butt, I went wild. My clit began reaching a climax that was all the better, thanks to his mad skills with that damn vibrator!

I climbed off, and he quickly arranged a pile of pillows. I enthusiastically arranged myself belly-down on the pile, with my tail up in the air. I felt some oil squirted on my ass cheeks and elsewhere before he sank it in deep into my vaginal playground. I was in heaven! But before I could even say, "Deeper, baby," he pulled out of my burning emptiness. I was about to say something when I felt the vibrator slip in, taking his cock's place in my pussy. I took over, he was jacking himself and loving what he saw. I knew he loved this kind of stuff, so I put on a real show, moaning loudly and thrusting my hips and "riding" the vibrator. Wait. What's this? I felt the tip of his erection teasing the opening of my ass. He stopped my hand as I began to withdraw the vibe. That was a new twist. I'd never been filled in both holes at the same time, and frankly I wasn't sure that I could take it, but Dr. Love seemed certain that I could.

Carefully, he eased the head of his prick into my ass. The lotion and some extra lube helped as I let my body go limp and tried to take him in. Slowly, he continued to push in a teeny bit at a time. By the time his shaft was buried in my butt, I had discovered it felt incredible. I was stuffed full and I never wanted it to end. My man was knocking at my back door and got to work with that delicious vibrator in my pussy. Was he sure he's never done this before? I wondered. But a growing climax was coming on strong in what felt like three places at once — my ass, my pussy, and my clit. I screamed out with pleasure as I felt the release of his pent-up balls.

After resting a while and staring at the ceiling, we each came up with the same idea. Let's take a shower. We giggled like college kids as we raced back into the bathroom and jumped into the stall. As we took turns soaping each other's tired, but satisfied bodies I looked over at my playmate. He was wearing the most contented smile I'd ever seen. Though he'd had a truly rotten week, I'd helped him regain his perspective and he'd given me one of the best rides of my life.

All of this, from just a bath.

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