Find the best anal sex position for you and your partner! We took an informal poll among experienced backdoor lovers and found the most popular positions for anal sex. Check them out for yourself and decided which one you want to try. Or go ahead and do all of them! 

3 Best Anal Sex Positions for Beginners

Did you know the anus has one of the highest concentrations of nerves in the human body? In fact, it may just offer up more sensations than any other erogenous zone. That’s why anal play feels so good.

And if you've never had anal sex before you're in for a treat. Anal sex can open up a whole new world of pleasure and discovery. However, if you’re just starting out there are a couple of things you need to know. You’ll definitely want to check out our How to Prepare for Anal Sex article for helpful tips and information. It's also extremely important to remember that the anus is not a self-lubricating orifice, so always use plenty of anal lube. The main thing when experimenting with anal sex for the first time is to just RELAX! Go at your own pace and take as little or as much as you like. Remember, YOU are in charge of your pleasure and need to do what feels good for you. With that in mind, here are our top 3 anal sex positions for beginners:

1. Anal Doggy

Anal Doggy Sex Position

If you want something fun and comfortable, then this is best anal sex position for you! Doggy is associated with anal more often than any other sex position – mostly because it gives your partner a great view of your rear! More importantly though, doggy naturally angles your backdoor for more comfortable and more enjoyable backdoor penetration. Since the pace and depth is all in the hands of your partner, you have to trust their judgement and control. They should pay close attention to your body language and signals to make sure they stop if it ever becomes uncomfortable for you.

Get on your hands and knees with your legs spread apart to open up your cheeks as well as your backdoor. Your partner should approach you from behind before slowly plunging in for anal doggy. You can raise or lower your hips as needed to change the angle of penetration, making it relatively easy to find the most comfortable position for anal penetration. they can rest their hands on your hips or lean forward to play with your breasts.

Depending on how you like it, they might even tug on your hair some or start spanking you during sex for kinkier play. They could talk dirty or even straddle your rear – allowing them to ride you from behind complete with cowboy noises.

2. Anal Cowgirl

Anal Cowgirl Sex Position

If you want to take it slow and steady, then this is the best anal sex position for you! Anal cowgirl has the dual benefit of allowing the partner on top to set the pace and control the depth – making it ideal if you’re worried about taking it too far too quickly. It’s also great if you need to stop suddenly for any reason.

Start with your partner lying or sitting on the bed and then straddle them. You can face them for eye contact during sex (cowgirl) or face away to give them a great view of your rear (reverse cowgirl). And then gently lower yourself on top of them. Wait a few minutes to give your body time to adjust before you start moving with a gentle rocking motion. If you’re worried about your partner getting carried away, then hold onto the lower half of the penis. Your hand will help increase their stimulation by acting as an extension of your backdoor, while limiting how deep they can go.

3. Anal Spoon

Anal Spoon Sex Position

If you want an anal position that relaxes both partners while allowing for easy clitoral play, then this is the best anal sex position for you. Spoon is a very intimate position with a high degree of skin-to-skin contact for improved intimacy. This makes it fantastic for anal play, which can sometimes create a sense of distance or separation between partners.

Start with one partner lying on the bed with their legs and knees slightly bent. The other partner lies down beside them, scooting close for skin-to-skin contact. The male can then gently slide his penis inside her backdoor. The position naturally limits how fast he can go, making it ideal for anal. It also leaves him free to tease her breasts and clit for additional stimulation. The “little spoon” can curl their legs slightly for easier access and more comfortable penetration.

How Anal Sex Toys Can Help

Anal sex toys are great ways to explore your backdoor fantasies, and gain experience in the art of booty play. They can be as simple as a strand of anal beads, or as complex as a multi-function vibrator. Toys also help you become more comfortable with your body as you work your way up to anal aficionado. So, if you’re just beginning your anal journey, here is a look at some of the most popular types of posterior pleasing toys:

Butt Plugs

Plugs are the perfect addition to any toy box. They gently stretch open your derriere to make it easier to work your way up to taking on other toys, fingers or the penis, but they’re just as satisfying on their own. They come in all sizes, however, small butt plugs are great for beginners as a way of introducing them to backdoor play. Then as you get more comfortable, larger butt plugs can be used to train that tushy for bigger things.

Anal Trainer Kits

Did you know anal muscles can be trained for better control and stamina? That’s what makes trainer sets so popular. Normally consisting of a trio of different sized anal plugs, they allow the booty beginner or pro to train or retrain sphincter muscles. Start with the smallest item and work your way up in size for more intense sensations and maximum pleasure.

Anal Beads & Wands

These toys are designed to stimulate the anus through penetration. Often, balls of the same size or ascending sizes are attached to a string or a more rigid shaft, and then inserted. This allows beginners to get comfortable with just a few anal beads then as they gain experience they can try beads that gradually grow larger and larger. Anal beads are great to use while masturbating, or as foreplay to open up the backdoor for other toys or a penis.

Anal Vibes & Dildos

Anal dildos are toys designed specifically for anal use. They are usually smaller than traditional dildos, and have a flared base to prevent them from slipping in too far. They also come in a variety of materials and designs so you and find what suits you best. Similarly, vibrating anal toys have a slim shaft for easy entry, plus bumps or ridges for added stimulation and pleasure. They also buzz your backdoor just right.