Finding the best anal sex position can be a tricky proposition. One person might need an anal position that allows them to take control, while someone else might place a higher value on comfort. In the end, the best anal sex position really comes down to your personal priorities. So your friends at Adam & Eve quizzed our backdoor experts to find the most popular anal positions as well as their personal recommendations. And here’s what we found out:
Before having anal sex, make sure you take time to properly prepare. That means spending a few days or even weeks ahead of time slowly warming up your backdoor. It means having plenty of anal lube on hand to keep everything comfortable. It also means stopping immediately at any time if anal sex becomes uncomfortable or painful. Check out our How to Prepare for Anal Sex article for more detailed information about having anal sex.
If you want something fun and comfortable, then this is best anal sex position for you! Doggy is associated with anal more often than any other sex position – mostly because it gives your partner a great view of your rear! More importantly though, doggy naturally angles your backdoor for more comfortable and more enjoyable backdoor penetration. Since the pace and depth is all in the hands of your partner, you have to trust his judgement and control. He should pay close attention to your body language and signals to make sure he stops if it ever becomes uncomfortable for you.
Get on your hands and knees with your legs spread apart to open up your cheeks as well as your backdoor. Your partner should approach you from behind before slowly plunging in for anal doggy. You can raise or lower your hips as needed to change the angle of penetration, making it relatively easy to find the most comfortable position for anal penetration. He can rest his hands on your hips or lean forward to play with your breasts.
Depending on how you like it, he might even tug on your hair some or start spanking you during sex for kinkier play. He could talk dirty or even straddle your rear – allowing him to ride you from behind complete with cowboy noises.
If you want to take it slow and steady, then this is the best anal sex position for you! Anal cowgirl has the dual benefit of allowing the partner on top to set the pace and control the depth – making it ideal if you’re worried about taking it too far too quickly. It’s also great if you need to stop suddenly for any reason.
Start with your partner lying or sitting on the bed and then straddle him. You can face him for eye contact during sex (cowgirl) or face away to give him a great view of your rear (reverse cowgirl). And then gently lower yourself on top of him. Wait a few minutes to give your body time to adjust before you start moving with a gentle rocking motion. If you’re worried about your partner getting carried away, then hold onto the lower half of his penis. Your hand will help increase his stimulation by acting as an extension of your backdoor, while limiting how deep he can go.
If you want an anal position that relaxes both partners while allowing for easy clitoral play, then this is the best anal sex position for you. Spoon is a very intimate position with a high degree of skin-to-skin contact for improved intimacy. This makes it fantastic for anal play, which can sometimes create a sense of distance or separation between partners.
Start with one partner lying on their bed with their legs and knees slightly bent. The other partner lies down beside them, scooting close for skin-to-skin contact. The male can then gently slide his penis inside her backdoor. The position naturally limits how fast he can go, making it ideal for anal. It also leaves him free to tease her breasts and clit for additional stimulation. The “little spoon” can curl their legs slightly for easier access and more comfortable penetration.