Fleshlights have been around since 1997 and are one of the most revolutionary and popular male sex toys on the market. So, it’s no wonder you may be curious, or maybe even a little intimidated about what they are, how they work, and what makes them so special.
We’re here to help. As a company that has sold thousands of Fleshlights, we have the information you need to satisfy that curiosity and take the guesswork out of where to start on your Fleshlight journey.
What is a Fleshlight?
A Fleshlight is a male masturbation toy comprised of a hard outer shell with a realistic soft inner sleeve. It’s design mimics an actual flashlight so it can be hidden in plain sight. A removable cap hides the inner sleeve (and keeps it clean while not in use) while an adjustable endcap controls the suction created upon using the toy. This suction combined with the life-like material simulates the feelings of actual sex. But there are other features that make up a Fleshlight as well. Fleshlights feature orifices that look like vaginas, anuses, mouths, swirls, and even alien queens, although there are non-descript ones available depending on your taste. They have unique and different textured interiors with nubs and ridges to stimulate the penis. The material used also mimics the feel of real skin for a life-like experience. Many models are molded from adult performers, letting you feel like you’re sleeping with your favorite star.
Why are Fleshlights So Popular?
The Fleshlight's popularity is due to two ground-breaking innovations in the world of men's sex toys. First is the toy’s discreet outer case. While other male masturbators stand out and need to be hidden away when not in use, these masturbators are made to look like a common flashlight and blend in with their surroundings.
The other secret to the Fleshlight's worldwide success is its superior suction. An end cap on the outer case creates an adjustable vacuum whenever you try to pull your shaft out of the Fleshlight.
Combine that with the different orifices and textures offered, celebrity molds, and overall longevity of the toy, and it’s no wonder why it’s consistently one of the world’s top male sex toys.
How Do You Use a Fleshlight?
Using a Fleshlight isn’t hard. If you use your hand to masturbate, you can use a Fleshlight. Just lube up, insert your penis into the sleeve, and get ready to be blown away.
Stroking with Your Hand
When you use your hand to maneuver your masturbator, you can control the speed and angle of your thrusts and set your own pace. Simply slide the toy up and down your shaft until you find the combination that works for you. The tunnel might be tight at first (especially anal models).
Using a Shower Mount
Go on an aquatic adventure with a handy adjustable shower mount that attaches to smooth surfaces and is compatible with most standard size models. It allows you to thrust into your Fleshlight, while keeping your hands free to do other things. Try cupping your balls or pinching your nipples for added stimulation.
Getting Help from a Partner
You don’t always have to go it alone. Partner play is a fun and sexy way to spark passion and closeness, so why not include your favorite sex toy? You can start off using your Fleshlight on yourself, then turn it over to your partner. Since their stroking techniques will be different from yours, you’ll love the different sensations they bring to the bedroom.
“I’m often busy and sleepy. I wanted to find a way to please my partner without having to put 100% of the work in occasionally. He said this feels almost the same as the real deal. You need to use a good bit of lube but once you do, it slides gloriously. It’s also fun from the female perspective and seeing his reaction is quite the turn on. 10/10 recommend!!!” –Hotnerd
No matter how you choose to use your Fleshlight, it’s important to note you should only use water-based lubricant or a lube specifically designed for use with your toy so it doesn’t degrade the life-like material.
What Does a Fleshlight Feel Like?
The sleeves of a Fleshlight are made from SuperSkin,™ a material that closely resembles actual human skin to make it feel like the real thing. And like human skin, it reacts to heat and warms to the touch for an even more realistic experience. You can choose to run your sleeve under warm water before playtime, or use a sleeve warmer specifically designed for Fleshlights.
Once you enter the toy, suction is created to pull your penis in deep. You can loosen or tighten the endcap to adjust the intensity of the suction and customize your play.
In addition to the suction, each Fleshlight sleeve features arousing interiors and tunnel shapes. It can be as simple as a smooth sleeve, a more complex one containing swirls, ridges, ticklers & pleasure nubs, or a combination of sensations and patterns. As you stroke, the unique texture of your chosen model is designed for maximum stimulation and satisfaction.
“If Madison Ivy feels anything like this in real life, personally I’d never let her go. This fleshlight is incredible the texture and feel is outstanding. You definitely will not be disappointed with this.” –Archimedes23
Types of Fleshlights
With all the variations of Fleshlights available, it’s important to know just what the different designs are so you can choose the right one for you.
Stamina Trainers
Designed to replicate the intense sensations of intercourse, Fleshlights such as the Adam’s Trainer can help users increase sexual stamina, improve performance and techniques, and heighten and intensify orgasms.
Celebrity Molds
Just like the name implies, these beauties are molded directly from the vagina or anus of your favorite adult performers like Riley Reid, letting you capture every intimate detail and fulfill your fantasies about sleeping with the stars.
Quickshot
Measuring about half the size of a traditional Fleshlight, these compact masturbators are perfect for when you’re on-the-go. But don’t let their smaller size fool you. You’ll still experience thrilling textures for mind blowing orgasms from a toy like the Quickshot Turbo.
Non-realistic Designs
Like all Fleshlights, designs like the Turbo Thrust feature the same incredible inner textures and suction, but with a non-anatomical orifice.
Fantasy Models
If you want to go where no man has gone before, or you just want to embrace your inner sci-fi cravings, there are’s even alien-inspired Fleshlights for out of this world orgasms.
Cleaning and Care
No matter which model of Fleshlight you choose, it’s an investment and should be taken care of properly to ensure years of pleasure and fun.
- After each use remove the inner sleeve from the outer case. Clean the outer case inside and out with soap and water and air dry.
- Rinse the sleeve with warm (not hot water) for at least 30 seconds.
- Hold your finger against the bottom opening to plug the hole and fill it up with warm, soapy water. Place your hand over the main opening and give it a good shake. Drain the sleeve.
- Once the sleeve is drained rinse it again with warm water for about 30 seconds.
- You can then choose to spray your Fleshlight with Fleshwash Anti-Bacterial Toy Cleaner for an even more pristine clean.
- Allow the sleeve to dry completely.
- To keep your Fleshlight feeling and looking new, you may also want to consider Renewing Powder. This ensures everything remains smooth and supple.
- Once you’ve followed all the steps for care and cleaning, reassemble then store in a cool, dry place until you’re ready for your next stroking session and remember to always follow the manufacturer’s instructions.