I don't have any judgment on whether doing this is a "good or bad" thing in general. It really depends on your own motivations. Some people feel empowered by the act of having sex not only in front of a webcam but also for getting paid for it. Other people try it once and decide that for whatever reason it doesn't work for them. But do know once it's out there it is potentially out there forever, so I think you taking the time to make an informed decision is a good one.
Talk it over with your girlfriend. See if there is a way you can try it that doesn't involve you showing your identity. There are plenty of webcam videos out there that just involve an unidentified stunt dick. But know that even if you try this route that the mental stress of still being found out somehow or just the fact that it is incongruent with other aspects of your life might still hinder you.
There is always a risk with this sort of thing and you and your girlfriend should be sure to acknowledge that it may change your relationship as well – sometimes for the worse. There is the additional risk that your job may not look kindly on this sort of behavior too so you would have to be willing to risk that as well. Take the time to weigh all of the options and if you still want to go forward, do it slowly.
Then begin by lying back and tightening your kegel muscles for five seconds. And relax. That's it! Try this exercise several times in a row. Gradually, you'll be able to build up your strength and stamina until you're a kegel commando.
Because the exercises are made up of such small movements, you can do kegel exercises discreetly in just about any situation. But be warned: kegel exercises can be very stimulating. You may prefer to perform them in private, or just before sex.
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3. Break Character. Nothing dulls your sex life quite like mind-numbing routine. So it's important to break the pattern and do something completely out of character. If you always plan things in advance, then it's time for a spontaneous romantic retreat. If you always have sex in bed with the lights off, then try the dining room table in the middle of the day.
4. Get A New Sex Toy. It doesn't matter if it's a big-screen TV or a cell phone. Whenever you get something new, it's perfectly natural to want to try it out. So a new sex toy – especially one your spouse might like – is all the excuse you need for a little hanky panky. Based on personal experience, vibrators – especially either rabbit or G-Spot – work the best in this kind of situation.
5. Follow up. While these steps will hopefully do some good, they're not exactly magical cure-alls for your sexual doldrums. In the end, the only way to get rid of a ho-hum sex life permanently is by sitting down with your partner and having a comprehensive conversation about your relationship. With some luck, your relationship will end up stronger than ever… and your sex life will skyrocket!
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