A&E's Resident Sex Expert Continued
I can remember a time when she wanted it so much I didn't know if I could keep up. Sometimes I feel like she just isn't attracted to me anymore - it's not like I gained alot of weight or something. I just don't know what to do anymore. Any ideas? Oh and don't know if this matters or not but we are both about 28.
There are many reasons your sex life with your wife may have waned. There is the common explanation that very few couples can sustain the level of romanticism and affection they had early on simply because there are not enough hours in the day and variables like kids and jobs aren't conducive to the afternoon delight you may have had on a regular basis before.
What concerns me here is the lack of overall intimacy that you are pointing out. This includes hand holding, random kisses other physical contact that often keeps relationships afloat when the sex itself runs a bit dry. It sounds like you are trying to talk it out but you need to go deeper. A flat "I'm sorry" doesn't cut it here. I sincerely doubt attraction is an issue either. There may be some other underlying psychological issue your wife hasn't dealt with or a physiological issue like hormone problems or depression.
I am suggesting three options for your next step here. 1) Lower your expectations for the moment. Sex now will probably never be exactly as it was but it does sound like it could be reasonably be better. 2) Sit down with your wife and have a deeper discussion about this. Does she sense anything else is going on with herself? Talk about being more affectionate (less stress than more sex right away) and see how she feels. 3) Get thee to an expert. If things don't improve even a little, I would suggest she get a medical work up for her hormones and that you both see a local therapist to work out the details. Go to www.aasect.org for more info.
Happy National Spouses Day Continued
and care about each other.
Sounds like a great excuse for a dinner date or a quick get-away! Or even a simple romantic walk in the park together.
Here are some low-cost ways to celebrate Spouses Day:
- Give your sweetie an unexpected massage.
- Do an errand or chore you know your S.O. (Significant Other) hates to do, and do it gladly!
- Tell your spouse to take the evening off while you watch the kids.
- If there's snow outside, make snow angels together (this is more fun than it sounds - take pictures!).
- Complete an item on your "honey-do" list with no prompting or reminding.
- Watch their favorite sports that day and pretend you like it.
- Watch their favorite show and pretend you like it.
- Get a bubbly tub ready for her after a long day.
- Present your Spouse Day gift or favors on a day other than Spouse Day.
- Indulge your spouse in one of their favorite sexual fantasies.
Here at Adam & Eve we have many, many off-the-shelf items to make Spouse Day sexy and fun for both of you.
Celebrate Spouses Day for under $10:
Candy Ball Gag - Who will wear it and for how long? Don't worry, it's made from delicious candy! Comes with FREE blindfold love mask.
G-Gasm Delight G-Spot Vibrator - Explore her G-spot, then delight it with this waterproof joy maker.
Hung Pleasure Cock Rings - These rings add stimulating texture to his erection while helping it stay harder, longer at the same time.
Celebrate Spouses Day for under $25:
Tantric Satin Pleasure Whip - It sounds thrilling and lands with a light bite.
Bondage Seductions Game - Thanks to books like Fifty Shades Of Grey, couples are exploring role playing. Here's a fun way to try that, with just a roll of the dice.
Anal Training Kit - Perhaps one or both of your have been talking about this? A safe and easy way to explore taboo tushie thrills.
Celebrate Spouses Day for under $40:
Naughty School Girl (18+) Uniform - Now here's a popular fantasy that won't go away. Made to be worn –– and removed –– with ease.
Batman XXX A Porn Parody DVD - You'll be shocked and amazed at the accurate details in costume and sets - "How do they get away with this?!" you'll ask. It's all in good fun...and if watching "a good porno" sounds impossible to you, this DVD may surprise you!
Crystal Kegel Glass Dildo - One of our most popular glass dildos provides so many different ways to stimulate your lady love. Also strengthens her Kegel muscles!
Celebrate Spouses Day Deluxe Edition:
Squirmy Rabbit Love-Her - One of the biggest trends in adult self-pleasuring has been rabbit style vibrators. Maybe it's because they do so much simultaneously? Be sure to stop by Adam & Eve's rabbit vibe section, you're bound to find the perfect sex toy for her.
Bend Over Beginner Harness Kit - Yes, pegging your guy with this strap-on is definitely "out there." Don't worry, we won't tell anyone.
Make This New Year Sexier Than Ever! Continued
Be A Man Of Steel. Is Tantra-level staying power on your wish list? You could embark on an epic meditation campaign, or you could experiment with cock rings from Adam & Eve. Use a super-stretchy ring for a small boost, or try on a cock cage or supportive penis sleeve to give your stamina a major leg up.
Take Up Naughty New Hobbies. Vanilla, chocolate, and strawberry flavors of sex are all great, but a little novelty every now and then goes a long way. Why not grab yourselves some sexy costumes and try out some role-playing fantasies? Try on a remote controlled vibrator under clothes to amp up every day activities. And speaking of amperage, why not take an Electro-sex kit for a spin? We promise shocking results.
Make New Friends (With Benefits). Single and ready to mingle? Or maybe you and your spouse are thinking about swinging? Make sure to keep around party favors like colorful ONE pre-lubed condoms, one-shots from Adam & Eve's Lubemania sampler pack, and a finger vibe or two for extra pleasure – so you can be ready whenever the action gets hot and steamy.
Be More Attractive. Whether you want to meet someone new or make your current partner crazy with lust, you can always enhance your natural sex appeal. Why not dab on a little Pheromone Cologne or Perfume to help unlock pure, potent attraction?
As always, remember that Adam & Eve is here to give you plenty of naughty new reasons to get sexy in the New Year!
Candidly Speaking By Candida Royalle Continued
it's important to pay attention to her body language so that if she is on her way to a wild finish, then you know you'd best not stop! It's equally important that she communicate her needs so that you're not constantly playing a guessing game.
Men don't always need to climax either, especially as they exit their 'urgent' '20's and mature in to more sensitive lovers. Growing older is challenging, but one of the rewards is that sex evolves and develops in to a far more varied expression of feelings and desires. Rather than remaining a linear and often predictable pattern of activities - a little kissing, squeezing of the breasts and nibbles of the nipples, some oral sex before getting to what's usually considered the ‘main event' - those who continue to grow learn that making love is like choosing from variety of offerings, like a buffet, and in no set pattern. It's important to shake things up and occasionally surprise your partner with something other than what usually comes next. Think about how boring it would be to sit down for dinner every night knowing exactly what you're going to eat because it's the same meal every night! Doing the same thing all the time inevitably leads to boredom in the bedroom, and might even lose its ability to get you to that almighty orgasm.
So stop worrying about whether or not your woman - or your man - has climaxed, and instead think about throwing a few surprises in to the mix. You just might be in for a few surprises yourself!
Candida Royalle is a former star of the blue movie screen who in 1984 created Femme Productions® and pioneered the genre of woman-friendly adult erotica. In 1999, she launched the Euro-designed Natural Contours® line of high-style discreet vibrators. She's the author of How to Tell a Naked Man What to Do: Sex Advice From a Woman who Knows; and a sought after speaker on topics ranging from how to have great sex to the politics of free expression. Royalle's product lines are available through AdamEve.com. For more information about Candida Royalle, visit www.candidaroyalle.com.
The Unofficial 2013 AVN Award Show Preview Continued
were spread across hundreds of adult movies - unlike past award shows where one or two big budget productions would dominate the list. In the face of such intense competition, Adam & Eve Pictures is proud to have received dozens of nominations this year for movies ranging from the long-running Amateur Angels series to the visual extravaganza The Four.
Some movies and categories to watch this year include: The Four, Countdown and The Truth About O - all nominated for the coveted Best Drama award. D3viance, Super Porn and Superstars are all up for the Best All-Sex Release. Titles nominated for the Best Parody - Comedy include: Buffy The Vampire Slayer XXX, Family Guy XXX, Men in Black XXX, Not Animal House, and the Official Hangover Parody. Best Parody Drama nominees include: Dallas XXX, The Dark Knight XXX, This Ain't Jaws XXX, and Tomb Raider XXX. Café Amore and Tango to Romance were nominated for the Best Romance Award.
And then we come to Female Performer of the Year, a virtual crown that translates into higher-profile roles and bigger paychecks for the winner. This year, there are 20 nominees for the formidable title, ranging from experienced performers like Kristina Rose, Lexi Belle, Eva Angelina, and Alexis Texas to relative newcomers like Gracie Glam and Jessie Andrews. Other nominees include: Asa Akira, Lily Carter, Dana DeArmond, Skin Diamond, Allie Haze, Kayden Kross, Lily LaBeau, Brooklyn Lee, Chanel Preston, Samantha Saint, Andy San Dimas, Bobbi Starr, Jada Stevens and Misty Stone.