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You can Ask Dr. Kat by emailing her at ask@drkat.com. Dear Dr. Kat, Upon returning from a trip I discovered gay porn movies and magazines that belong to my husband of five years. When I confronted him about it he admitted that he had always had fantasies about men but was not gay and had no interest in physically exploring other men. Should I believe him or is he just trying to hide his homosexual tendencies? Veronica Dear Veronica, Well, I can't answer the question about whether you should believe him or not. Ultimately, you're the one who knows your spouse and can speak best to his trustworthiness. But if he hasn't given you reason to not trust him prior to this then you shouldn't stop now. The term "homosexual tendencies" is an interesting one. It may be all they are. After all, one person can't really label another person gay, straight, bi or otherwise. Only the individual can make that decision. As sex researcher Alfred Kinsey has said, sexuality is on a continuum, very few people are entirely gay or entirely straight. If you take into account experience and fantasy, we all fall somewhere between the two. You didn't mention that the two of you had any other problems in your sex life, so I can only assume that his exploration into these materials is a healthy part of who he is sexually. I'd be more concerned if you inherently didn't trust him or if there were other issues with your sex life. In an indirect way he may have wanted to you to know about this facet of his sexuality and purposely left the materials out to be found. It's always easier to lead a more authentic sexual life if we aren't hiding our "dirty" little secrets from our partners. Everyone has got their own erotic template of what turns them on. For instance, there are many people who have fantasies that they would never want to act out. That's what make fantasies so great…you can live out all the taboo things that you would never do in real life. If you have additional concerns talk to your spouse about them. If he's open to it maybe you can find out what the appeal is to him, how the interest started etc. Granted, not everyone may want to know the specifics, but perhaps the more truth you know, the less intimidated you will be by it. It could also help you figure out how you feel about the issue as a whole and whether or not this is a part of his sexuality that you want him to share with you. Many times sexual revelations like this one can bring a couple closer together. This can be the perfect opportunity for you to perhaps put a sexual secret on the table to deal with as a couple as well. Who knows? Maybe you want to share a little gay porn with your hubby. I know many women who find gay porn even hotter than straight, and the guys tend to be a lot better looking in them too. Sincerely, |
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Candidly Speaking Now that we're in the heart of summer, so many of us stress over our body image, and how could we not? We wear skimpy clothes to cope with the heat and then of course there's the issue beach-wear…groan. Trying on bathing suits can be one of the most painful activities of all. Is it just me, or are those fitting rooms designed to make even the most perfect-bodied person appear to be covered in cellulite?!? I can recall once storming out of the fitting room and demanding to know why the lighting was so awful. ("Overhead lighting? Really? Are you trying to sell bathing suits or are you preparing to shoot a horror film in here?") So how do we survive the cruelest season of all? Forget about dieting. If you don't already know, diets don't work. The only way to lose weight and keep it off is to burn more calories than you take in, and the only way to do that is to eat less and exercise more. What I really want to focus on is the importance of a healthy body image, setting up realistic goals and expectations for ourselves, and knowing what really counts when searching for true love and intimacy. With all the unattainable images of flawless young bodies that have been re-touched and made impossibly perfect, it's hard to accept ourselves as we are, but essential if we want to have a fulfilling intimate relationship. Poor body image is one of the biggest deterrents to a fulfilling sex-life. Key to accepting ourselves as we are is understanding that being loved means being truly "seen" and appreciated, from the inside out. If being loved and desired required that we have a perfect body without any flaws, few of us would find that special someone. When we fall in love our vision of each other is enhanced by the "love chemicals" that flood our bodies; we become beautiful in the eyes of our mate. You know the old saying, 'love is blind'…That's how it works. Mother Nature fools us in to thinking we're with the most gorgeous male or female that walks the earth; and if we focus on what we like and love about each other rather than what bugs us to madness, we stand a good chance of continuing to wonder how we got so darned lucky! Next month I'll give you some hints on ways you can enhance your "attainable" beauty, from the inside out. Now throw on that swim suit and go for a dip! Candida Royalle is a former star of the blue movie screen who in 1984 created Femme Productions® and pioneered the genre of woman-friendly adult erotica. In 1999, she launched the Euro-designed Natural Contours® line of high-style discreet intimate products. She's the author of How to Tell a Naked Man What to Do: Sex Advice From a Woman who Knows; and a sought after speaker on topics ranging from how to have great sex to the politics of free expression. Royalle's product lines are available through AdamEve.com. For more information about Candida Royalle, visit www.candidaroyalle.com. |
With the popularity of 50 Shades of Grey, more and more people are eager to experiment with bondage and other kinky forms of sex. Thankfully, you don't need your own Red Room to see if kinky is right for you. In fact, three basic household items are all you need to begin experimenting with bondage. Blindfolds Ice cubes Ties Once you've determined that kinky sex is your thing, you can try a number of specialty sex toys and position aids from Adam and Eve to take your experience to the next level. Check out Adam & Eve's kinky sex toys to try something new in the bedroom. |
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