Adam & Eve's Monthly Newsletter - March 2015 (Continued)

Dear Trevor,

It sounds like you could use a little confidence boost. Yes, it's true, women are attracted to confidence which can be particularly tricky if you are a nice, quieter type of guy; especially, at a noisy bar celebrating St. Patrick's Day. I bet you often get lost in the shuffle, while your outgoing friends seem to conquer the ladies.

You may not find the love of your life at a bar but it sounds like you're are indeed just looking for the luck of the Irish when it comes to sexing it up for an evening. Here are some things to keep in mind…

• I know it may be difficult to not partake as much as your friends but I suggest you monitor your drinking when you are out talking to the ladies. Chances are, they are picking up on your nervousness and the drinking is only magnifying it. Better to put your best foot forward at least, sober-ish. It will also make you stand out in a crowd of horny, drunk guys.

• Remove the expectations for hooking up. Decide to go out for a good time and make some new friends. I know this sounds counter-intuitive but the less you “try” to make things happen, the more chance it has of happening because you are removing the pressure.

• Pay attention to who are choosing to flirt with. Are you setting yourself up for failure by picking someone who doesn't seem all that interested in you from the get go? See if you can sidle up to the women you are interested in and overhear their conversation to see what they like to talk about. See if you can find some common ground and talk about something you are comfortable with.

• It may be that you aren't "closing" the deal. Are you paying attention to when a woman is truly interested? Do you know the signs? Sometimes men don't know when a woman is flirting with them. Ask yourself these questions: is she making an effort to touch you? Does she not seem concerned to hang the whole time with her friends? Is she making eye contact? If yes, seize the opportunity and invite her to get a drink where it is quieter so you can really talk. It's easier to transition to having sex if you aren't dealing with all of the variables of other people and a loud environment.

• I shouldn't have to say this but bring condoms. It's a sign of your confidence that you might get laid and an indicator to a woman that you are a responsible human being. That's always attractive. Not being prepared can put throw a monkey wrench into the flow of events.

Sincerely,

Dr. Kat

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Our Top 5 Green Products! (Continued)

5. Drawstring Shalimar Pants
These satiny-smooth emerald green drawstring pants have a loose, flowing cut and elastic waist that makes them comfortable enough for loungewear combined with a sexy flair sure to drive your lover wild!

4. Juicy Jewels Emerald Exciter Vibrator
Make your friends green with envy with this colorful new vibrator! The ridged shaft offers plenty of additional stimulation, while remaining flexible enough to hug your body's natural curves for more intimate pleasure.

3. Pierced Clit Stroker
With its unique glow-in-the-dark interior, this stroker is ideal for a little late-night fun! And the realistic entry even comes with a pierced clit for additional thrills!

2. Simply Stunning Bustier
Enjoy the luck of the Irish with this stunning Green Bustier and matching g-string set. The bra boosts your bust with a little extra padding plus supportive underwire, while the flexible boning slims your figure.

1. Emerald Thriller Glass Massager
With its colorful nature and graduated shaft, the Thriller Glass Massager really lives up to its name! The bulbous shaft gradually grows larger and larger (from 0.75 inch at the tip to 1.5 inches at the base) to fit your preference. If you prefer short and thin, you can stop after the first two bulbs. But if you like them long and thick, then you take the entire toy!

What Will Happen If You Get Lucky* This St. Patrick's Day? (Continued)

*and by "Lucky" we mean really, really lucky.

And what is "the luck o' the Irish," anyway?

Obviously, we can't talk about your "get lucky" options until we clear up what "the luck o' the Irish" is in the first place. Most of us believe this phrase describes good fortune, or at least good fortune with a dose of bittersweet irony. Stepped in some doggie doo? Well, it's a good thing you had shoes on -- that's the "luck o' the Irish," for ya.

For the real story, you'd have to revisit the California Gold Rush of 1849, when many of the most successful Forty-Niners were Irish and Irish-American. For them, the phrase "luck o' the Irish" was simultaneously full of praise for their pluck, but at the same time it was a back-handed insult that implied no skills were needed to find gold or silver in those days.

That said, let's explore your "I got lucky, so now what?" options:

If you're a guy into ladies, consider having the following ready for when you get lucky.

• Condoms - condoms can do so much for you! Besides birth control, or until you get to know each other better, it's probably a good idea to use protection against STDs. Besides, we have so many cool condoms to choose from, self-lubricated, textured, and flavored.
• Vibrator - take it easy, nothing too fancy or large. Maybe just have a vibrating bullet ready for you both to play with. Make it fun, you know?
• Penis Ring - try wearing this before you get lucky. Discover how it can help your performance, and if you like it, have it ready.
• Loungewear - good grooming and clean clothes is pu-lenty of a turn-on for most gals. But for immediate post-coital wear, some pants like these might come in handy (and yes, they come in St. Patrick's green!).

Now if you're a lady into guys, having the following might kick things up a notch for when you get lucky. (Let's face it, he'll be just as happy if you wore a burlap sack in a cold water flat with no electricity. What we're talking about here is style and making that first impression.)

• Condoms - see above.
• Vibrator - now the style of vibe is entirely up to you. Exploring and sharing your vibe knowledge with a new playmate can be fun, hot and orgasm-inducing. It also takes the performance pressure off.
• Penis Ring - have a simple one on stand-by in case you both agree he'd like to try it.
• Lingerie - entirely your call. True, a lot of guys love the slow tease of clothes coming off. Or just clothes off, period. But if lingerie is part of your style repertoire, then why not?

And if you're bi-sexual or gay, you've read dozens of these articles for straight folks and already have a pretty good idea of what'll work for you. At the end of the (lucky) day, a butt plug is still a butt plug and a strap-on is still very convenient…

Bondage? Seriously?
Well, okay. Maybe you're both fans of Fifty Shades of Grey who've just met and you want some quick 'n' easy role playing.

Good luck!

-- Compiled from staff reports