Adam & Eve's Monthly Newsletter - June 2015 (Continued)

Sex Position of the Month (Continued):
The Leg Lifter

The Leg Lifter position is a variation of the scissors position and is often used in adult movies. The woman lies flat on her back with her legs slightly spread. The man straddles one of her legs and the women lifts her other leg to rest on his shoulder. The man then wraps his arms around her thigh to help hold that leg up. Designed for deeper penetration, the position requires a certain amount of athleticism as it's easy for your leg muscles to tire out while being held up.

A&E's Resident Sex Expert: Dr. Kat (Continued)

Your questions answered Dr. Kat Van Kirk, a board certified Clinical Sexologist and licensed Marriage Therapist. This month's question is…

Q&A: Man-scaping Madness

Dear Dr. Kat,

My wife of 16 years has requested that I "clean things up" down there. She said that she thinks less hair might be fun and sexy to experiment with. Where the heck do I start? Do I just hack away at it until it looks ok?

Thank you,
Vinnie

Dear Vinnie,

Let's start off by saying that it is completely unnecessary to shave for sex. Hair can be sensual and sexy molded into interesting shapes…
But it can also get into your teeth and make you worried about what you smell or look like. Sex without hair benefits from can make you feel sexy, feel more comfortable with oral sex and showing off your sex.

Here are some general suggestions for man-scaping:
• Keep your skin exfoliated on a regular basis. You can do this with a shower mitt or washcloth. This will remove dry, flaky skin, which can clog your pores. But DON'T exfoliate on the day you'll actually be removing hair. This can cause additional irritation.
• Scented shaving creams and lotions tend to have chemicals and can cause more irritation.
• Removing hair on a regular basis tends to make it easier to do in general. The more stubble - the more irritation between removals.
• Prime your pubic hair by applying a thin layer of regular hair conditioner. This will soften the hair and the blade will glide more gently.
• If shaving takes too much time or causes too much irritation try just trimming with scissors or an electric razor. Experiment with lengths though, as some trimming lengths may be too "pointy" or "stubbly" for your partner.

Getting Started:
• Soften up - Take a bath or put a warm moist towel over the area. This will allow the pores to open up and get a closer shave.
• Clean the area before to avoid any chance of bacteria.
• Don't go dry - Use shaving cream or soap - non-irritating, soothing type. But don't use so much you won't be able to see what you are doing.
• Always use a fresh razor - Most porn stars don't use a razor more than 3-4 times before they switch it out. You can use Twin-Blades or the top of the line multiple blade, which is more expensive.
• Trim - To cut down on work on the blade.

Technique - The Basics:
• Go with the grain first.
• Go against the grain next - don't do this step if you have had irritation with it. Everyone is different this may work or not work for you.
• Pull skin taut with one hand - shave with the other.
• Don't go over the same area too many times (2-3 times is ideal) as it can cause irritation.
• If you are going to do the testicles, go slowly, pull the skin taut in sections and use a small mirror that you can kneel over.
• Rinse - but don't rub.

After:
• Clean area after to avoid any infections - especially if you have cut yourself.
• Apply talc to keep area dry. This can help you avoid chaffing.
• There are several products on the market to reduce ingrown hairs and razor bumps. Try Bikini Zone Cream (yes, men use this product) or a cheaper alternative is (believe it or not) Visine Eye Drops. Dab a little on a cotton swab and apply to your bumps. They'll disappear in about five minutes. It acts like an astringent by shrinking swollen tissue.
• The more you do it the less irritation. The skin gets used to the razor.
• Avoid ingrown hairs - wear cotton underwear, avoid synthetic or super tight clothes.
• You may have some initial redness but it usually goes away with about a half hour.

Sincerely,

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Summer Is The Season For Temperature Play! (Continued)

Not familiar with the term? Temperature play just means using heated or cooled objects to stimulate the senses. In fact, anyone who's ever pressed cold hands or feet against a lover's hot skin and made them shiver has participated in a kind of temperature play. It's one of the easiest kinds of sensation to bring into your bedroom, and you can get started right away.

Cold. During the summer, ice cubes feel wickedly cold - especially when swirled or pressed against sensitive spots like nipples. As part of sensual massage, bring along a bowl of ice cubes. Start with warm hands, then tease just a little with the ice cubes. As you use them, the ice not only chills your lover, but also chills you. You can even keep a piece of ice inside your mouth to add cool sensation to your tongue. Tip: Big cubes can be too cold and too hard to work with. Either break up the cubes beforehand or fill ice trays only partway to get smaller, melt-friendly pieces.

Heat. Got a hot pack handy? With a snap, these little packs heat up to a stimulating temperature. Many people keep them around the house to heat hands in winter or to soothe sore muscles. You can wrap one in a silky cloth and use it as a sensual massage pad. Don't have any hot packs? Massage stones can be heated in a bowl of warm water, and can either be placed on the body for arousing warmth, or used for arousing massage. Warming massage oil is just one more option. It creates a warming sensation, especially when rubbed into sensitive skin. Tip: blow on the warming oil for a steamy response.

Glass Goes Either Way. If you want to deliver hot thrills or cold chills, you're looking for a glass sex toy. Made from high-grade glass (the same kind that's used in premium cookware and laboratory equipment) that is designed to easily withstand temperature changes, these dildos and plugs come in a wide variety of shapes, sizes, and colors. No matter what you're looking for, you should be able to find a glass toy that meets your needs.

Once you've got your glass sex toy, you can heat it or cool it. The easiest, safest way to heat or cool your toy is to submerge it in a bowl of hot or cold water for a few minutes. You want to change your toy's temperature, but you want to make sure it's not so extreme that it causes your lover discomfort. Always test your toy's temperature against your own skin before using it on your lover. If you're at an arousing temperature level, start with teasing touches and move into an intimate massage and beyond. Using your own warm tongue in conjunction with a cool dildo just might blow your playmate's mind.

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Here It Comes: June Is Sex Ed Month! (Continued)

You see, most adults are in the dark about sex.

Remember high school? No matter where you live, you received either very little or zero sex ed.

So the years pass and each of us learns about sex the hard way. We do this through trial and error, reading books, magazines and googling our way through one thing or another.

For example, did you know current hot topics in sexuality run the gamut from consent, safer sex practices, role playing techniques and of course, kinky stuff.

Adam & Eve has been in the sex ed business for years. Many, if not all, of our product descriptions include tips and information on their safe and effective use. There's also a treasure trove of sex ed information in our various online buyers' guides.

And not only does this month's Forbidden Fruit Newsletter hold the latest in sex ed for adults, our archives have oodles of juicy info, too.

#AdultSexEdMonth is a social media campaign during the month of June. The idea is to share educational and informational blog posts, web articles, videos, podcasts and infographics about adult sex on Twitter and Facebook with the hashtag #AdultSexEdMonth.

If that feels awkward, especially on Facebook, you can just educate yourself at http://www.adultsexedmonth.com/ -- and share it with your partner, too!

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