Best Prostate Toy

The prostate is a small gland located below the bladder and in front of the rectum, according to the Cleveland Clinic. Because of where it sits in the body, prostate toys are designed to enter through the anus and curve forward toward the gland, rather than pointing straight ahead.

That makes choosing the best prostate toy fairly simple:

Look for a curve that reaches where you want it, a base or handle that stays safely outside the body, and the kind of control you enjoy. From there, it comes down to personal preference and whether you want to guide the toy yourself, add vibration, or let a partner control it.

The base is one of the most important things to consider. Any toy designed for anal insertion should have a flared base, loop, or wide handle that stays outside the body. The anus doesn't have a natural stopping point, so a properly designed base helps keep the toy from being drawn inside. Once you've covered that basic safety feature, you can focus on the shape, size, and style that appeal to you.

Control is the other big decision, and this is where personal preference really comes into play. Some people prefer a simple toy they can hold, angle, and adjust themselves. Others want vibration, hands-free stimulation, a remote a partner can control, or a toy designed to stay in place while they use their hands elsewhere. Think about how you want to use the toy first, and the options become much easier to narrow down.

When it comes to prostate toys, bigger isn't necessarily better. The prostate is about the size of a walnut and sits a couple of inches inside the body, so reaching it is more about shape and angle than depth. A toy with a gentle forward curve can reach the prostate without needing to be especially long or large.

If you're new to prostate toys, start smaller than you think you need. A slim, gently curved toy gives you more room to find the angle and pressure you like before moving up in size. Once you know what feels comfortable, you can decide whether you want something larger, more substantial, or simply shaped differently.

If this is your first toy, a multi-piece set lets you start out small and work your way up. The Intro To Prostate Kit and Adam's Ridged Trio Prostate Training Set both offer a gradual approach to prostate play. If you'd rather buy one thing and keep it simple, a single shaped probe such as the Silicone Prostate Probe or the Point Prostate Massager gives you a defined curve and a handle that's easy to control, making it easier to find the angle that feels right. You can always size up later.

There is no single winner when it comes to finding the best prostate massagers, because different designs do genuinely different things. The prostate can be stimulated externally with pressure on the perineum, or directly using a finger or an inserted toy, and deciding which kind of sensation you want is the first choice to make. Once you know what appeals to you, finding the right model comes down to how much automated motion or control you want the toy to handle on its own.

Probes vs. Plugs: A traditional probe features a handle you hold and angle yourself, giving you total control to find your sweet spot and change things up on the fly. A plug, on the other hand, is shaped to stay comfortably in place hands-free, which suits anyone who wants steady background sensation while something else has their attention. (For broader anal play beyond the prostate, options like butt plugs, anal beads, and anal training kits sit right alongside these styles.)

Adding Vibration and Movement

If you want to take things a step further, vibrating and moving designs add entirely different textures of sensation to the mix.

Vibrating Probes: Adding vibration is the most popular upgrade from a plain probe. Options like the Adam's Vibrating Triple Probe or the Vibrating P-Spot Milker use multi-speed motors to heighten the experience, though some people still genuinely prefer the quiet simplicity of an unpowered probe.

Motion and Remote Options: Advanced designs introduce automated action or let someone else take the wheel. The Eclipse Thrusting Rotating Probe combines physical motion with vibration, while remote-friendly and app-controlled models like the We-Vibe Vector Prostate Massager with Remote, let a partner control the pace from across the room.

Dual-Action Ring Combos: If you want prostate stimulation paired with a cock ring rather than on its own, options like the Adam's Rechargeable Prostate Pleaser C-Ring combine both types of play into a single design.

You can compare more shapes side by side in our guide to anal vibrators.

Lubricant isn't an optional extra when it comes to anal play. The anus doesn't produce its own lubrication, so using plenty of lube helps reduce friction and make insertion more comfortable. The University of Rochester's health service recommends using lubricant for anal play to help reduce friction and the risk of injury. Apply it generously to both your body and the toy, and add more whenever things start to feel dry. Water-based or silicone-based lubricant can both work well, depending on the toy and any condom you're using.

A flared base is just as important. Because the anus doesn't have a natural stopping point, an anal toy needs a wide base, loop, or handle that stays outside the body. Check for one before using the toy, and make sure it's secure enough to prevent the toy from being drawn inside.

Finally, take your time. Start slowly, give your body a chance to relax, and use more lubricant as needed. You can pause, change the angle, ease off, or stop at any point. If you're with a partner, the person receiving the toy should set the pace—whether it's your first time or your fiftieth.

Cleaning is simple, and it's the one step never worth skipping. Wash your hands and the toy with warm water and a mild, unscented soap, or use a dedicated toy cleaner, before and after each use. The International Society for Sexual Medicine recommends cleaning your hands, the area, and the toy, along with using plenty of lubricant, as part of safer and more comfortable use. If a toy is shared or used on different body areas, clean it thoroughly or put a fresh condom on it before switching from anal to vaginal use. Let the toy dry completely, then store it somewhere clean and dry, preferably in its own pouch or case.

A few things may feel unfamiliar the first time, but they're not necessarily a cause for concern. You may notice some pressure or even an urge to urinate while the prostate is being stimulated because the prostate sits just below the bladder. Sensation can also build gradually, so don't feel like you need to keep moving the toy. If you find an angle or pressure that feels good, it's fine to stay there and take your time.

There's no particular sensation you're supposed to have and no timeline you need to follow. Some people notice a lot right away, while others mainly feel pressure or fullness at first and need a few relaxed attempts to figure out what they like. If anything hurts, stop rather than pushing through it. More lubricant, less pressure, a smaller toy, or simply trying another day can make the experience more comfortable.

When you're ready to choose, head to the prostate toy collection at Adam & Eve and start with the shape and control style that appeal to you. If you're new to prostate toys, a simple curved probe or beginner-friendly design is an easy place to start. Once you know what you like, you can explore vibrating, remote-controlled, or hands-free options.

Whatever you choose, add a compatible lubricant to your order. You'll want plenty of it from the first use.

If you'd like a little more background before you buy, the guide to what prostate toys are covers the basics again from a different angle, and the anal sex tips library goes deeper on comfort and technique. Take your time, choose the one that matches how you actually want to use it, and enjoy it.