Naughty Show

In the Naughty Show Position, you and your partner sit face-to-face and masturbate at the same time, either on yourselves or each other. It allows you to stay close enough to see, touch, and communicate the whole time. Some couples use it as the main event, while others use it to build arousal during foreplay. It requires very little setup and can be tried by people of any body type or experience level. All you need is a comfortable place for two people to sit facing each other, with a clear view of one another.

Many couples find that the experience can be arousing or help deepen their sense of intimacy, though reactions vary. It’s also perfectly normal for it to feel unfamiliar or take some getting used to.

Because the experience involves both watching and touching, it helps to get comfortable before you begin. Here’s how to get started:

1. Sit facing each other on a couch, bed, or anywhere with enough room to see each other clearly, and get arranged so you're both comfortable, legs crossed, draped over each other, or however feels natural.
2. Ease in with lighter touch first. Run your hands over your own chest, stomach, or thighs, or your partner's, before moving toward genitals.
3. Start touching yourselves or each other while staying visible to one another the whole time. That visibility is the point of the position.
4. Keep eye contact and remember to communicate. Saying what feels good or what you want more of helps build arousal and keeps you both engaged.

Either partner can pause or stop at any time, whether they want to stop being watched, change what they're doing, or move away from the power-play dynamic. No explanation is needed.

If you're both comfortable and want to explore further, one partner can take the lead by suggesting what the other does or setting the pace. You can keep the focus on the Naughty Show position itself or use it as a starting point for other activities.

Since this position involves manual touch, having lubricant within reach can make things more comfortable. A water-based lubricant is a practical option for general use, and Adam & Eve offers several, including Adam & Eve Lubricant, Adam & Eve Masturbation Lubricant, and Adam & Eve Personal Lubricant. The best choice comes down to personal preference, so there's no need to overthink it.

If you're exploring anal touch, Adam & Eve Easy Anal Gel is another option to consider, as it's formulated specifically for anal play.

If you want to bring a toy into the mix, a vibrator or a male masturbator (sometimes called a stroker) can work well here too. A small or one-handed design tend to fit more naturally into the position as opposed to a bulkier toy, since those tend to feel a little awkward in a seated, facing setup where your hands are already occupied with each other.

Mutual masturbation, which is the basis of the Naughty Show position, generally carries a much lower risk of STIs and pregnancy than penetrative sex. However, some risk is still possible, depending on the type of contact involved. As Go Ask Alice, Columbia University's health education site, explains STI transmission can occur when certain bodily fluids come into contact with mucous membranes or broken skin. Sharing sex toys without cleaning them between uses can also spread infections.

A few simple habits can help keep things safer. Wash your hands before and after genital contact, and clean any shared toys before switching between partners. These small steps can help reduce the chance of passing infections back and forth without interrupting the experience.

Communication is just as important as physical comfort. Scarleteen, a nonprofit sex-education organization, emphasizes the importance of checking in with your partner throughout a sexual experience rather than assuming that an initial yes covers everything that follows. Simple questions like “Does that feel good?” or “Are you still enjoying this?” can help you stay connected and make adjustments as needed.

That matters particularly in the Naughty Show position, where being watched can feel exciting for some people but uncomfortable or unfamiliar for others. Keep checking in, respect each other's boundaries, and remember that either partner can pause or stop at any time.

It's common to feel a little self-conscious the first time you try the Naughty Show position, since it puts you both in view instead of letting either of you close your eyes and disappear into the moment. That reaction doesn't mean the position isn't for you. Slowing down, starting with lighter touch before anything genital, and talking through what you like can ease you both into it.

It also helps to know that the position doesn't ask you to perform or reach any particular outcome. If something stops feeling good, whether that's the pace, the power dynamic, or simply being watched, say so and adjust or stop. There's no obligation to push through discomfort to finish what you started, and picking the activity back up later, or not at all, is completely fine.

Once you've worked out the setup, the pace, and the check-ins, lubricant is the simplest thing to have ready before you start. A water-based option is the straightforward choice for mutual masturbation, and it covers all three Adam & Eve products discussed above. Browse Water-Based Sex Lubes at Adam & Eve to find one that suits you.

If you're curious about other positions with a similar amount of eye contact and shared control, Thigh Master, Jumping Rabbit, Booty Bow Wow, and Hissing Cobra are worth a look too.