Dildo Basics: A Video Guide

If you're new to dildos, this video guide and written walkthrough covers the basics and shows how they can be used. A dildo is a non-vibrating toy designed for internal stimulation, whether vaginal or anal. Unlike a vibrator, it doesn't use a motor, so the sensation comes from its shape, firmness, movement, and the way you use it.

You can use a dildo with your hand, with a partner, with a compatible suction-cup base, or with a strap-on harness. Start slowly, use plenty of lubricant, and adjust the depth, speed, and angle based on what feels comfortable.

Some dildos also have

vibration

, giving you the option to add vibration to the movement and pressure of the toy. If you're deciding between a traditional dildo and a vibrating model, consider whether you want the simplicity of a non-motorized toy or the additional stimulation that vibration provides.

Start with the material. Nonporous materials such as silicone, borosilicate glass, stainless steel, and ABS plastic are easy to clean thoroughly and are common choices for dildos. If you're considering another material, check how it should be cleaned and cared for before buying.

Next, consider size. If you're new to dildos, starting with a smaller option can make it easier to get comfortable. Pay attention to both the insertable length and the widest point, and choose something that feels manageable for you.

Finally, think about how you plan to use it. A dildo for solo use may have different features from one designed for hands-free use or a strap-on harness. Shape, flexibility, and the type of base can all affect which option makes the most sense for you.

Material affects how a dildo feels, how much it weighs, and how easy it is to clean. Silicone is a popular choice because it's nonporous, flexible, and easy to wash.

Glass

and stainless steel are firm and smooth, and both can hold temperature if you enjoy a cool or warmed sensation. Porous materials, such as some jelly-style plastics, are harder to clean thoroughly and are generally less desirable for regular use.

Shape can also change the experience:

• Straight dildos provide consistent pressure.
• Curved designs can provide more targeted stimulation.
• Tapered dildos start narrower at the tip and gradually widen, which can make insertion feel more gradual.

Size comes down to personal preference and comfort. Check both the insertable length and the widest point rather than looking at length alone.

The base is another feature to consider. A wide or flared base is important for anal use, while a suction-cup base can provide hands-free use on a compatible smooth surface. If you plan to use a dildo with a strap-on harness, make sure the base is compatible with the harness opening.

If you're using a dildo anally, choose one with a wide, flared base or another feature that prevents it from being fully inserted. This helps keep the toy within reach and prevents it from slipping into the rectum.

Go slowly and use plenty of lubricant. The person being penetrated should control the pace and depth, and anything that causes pain or persistent discomfort is a reason to stop or adjust.

If you're sharing a toy or switching between anal and vaginal use, clean it thoroughly between uses or use a fresh condom. Following these basic precautions can help keep play comfortable and reduce the risk of irritation or infection.

Water-based lubricant

is a good general choice for most dildos. If you're using a silicone dildo, check the toy's care instructions before using silicone-based lube, as it can damage some silicone toys. Avoid oil-based lubricants if you're using condoms, since oil can weaken latex.

Clean your dildo before and after use with warm water and mild, unscented soap, or a toy cleaner unless the manufacturer recommends a different method. If the toy isn't waterproof or contains a motor or battery compartment, don't submerge it. Let it dry completely before storing.

Store your dildo somewhere clean and dry, ideally in its own pouch or container rather than loose with other toys. This helps protect the material from dust and prevents different toys from rubbing against each other.

Knowing your preferred material, size, and shape can make it easier to find a dildo that feels right for you. If you want the firmness and control of a dildo with the option of a buzz on top, vibrating dildos at Adam & Eve are a great place to start, and you can dial the vibration up, down or off depending on the mood.

Prefer to keep it simple for a first toy? The wider selection of dildos at Adam & Eve covers silicone, glass, curved and suction cup options in one place. Whichever you pick, add a water-based lube so it feels good from the first minute, and something from the toy cleaners selection so clean up stays easy. Watch the video again anytime you want a refresher, and take the rest at whatever pace suits you.