Best Sex Toys for Couples

Picking something out together is part of the fun, from the browsing and back-and-forth to finally getting to try it. If you're comparing sex toys for couples and want the short version, four types are a good place to start: a vibrating ring worn during penetration, a wearable couples vibrator that stays in place while you move, a remote or app-controlled toy that lets one partner take the controls, or a wand or air-pulse toy that one of you holds and moves.

Trying something new together doesn't have to mean anything is missing. Plenty of couples add a toy simply because it sounds fun, and that's reason enough.

Want one recommendation rather than four? Start with a vibrating ring. It's easy to add to sex you already enjoy, and the vibration can reach both partners during penetration. Many rings sit in a position that also provides stimulation around the clitoris, so they can add something for the receiving partner without requiring a completely different setup.

From there, look around together and see what catches your interest. The couples' toys at Adam & Eve are grouped by what the toys actually do, so you can compare options like couples vibrators and penis rings side by side and decide what sounds good to both of you.

When you're choosing a couples' toy, the real question isn't just “Which one should we get?” It's “Will we both actually enjoy using it?” A few simple questions can help narrow things down before you get caught up in features and product names.

• Who is it for? Some toys are designed to stimulate one partner, some can be enjoyed by both at the same time, and others can be passed back and forth. Start by figuring out which kind of experience sounds best to both of you.
• What do you want it to feel like? Broad, rumbly vibration feels very different from a more focused buzz, while air-pulse stimulation, pressure, fullness, and gentle tightness offer their own sensations. Think about the feeling you're after first, then look at the toys designed to provide it.
• Who gets to control it? Buttons on the toy keep things straightforward. A remote lets one partner control it without reaching for the toy, while app control gives you the option of changing settings from farther away even when you're not in the same place.

Once you've narrowed down the type of toy, there are three practical details to check on the product page:

• Material. Look for smooth, nonporous materials such as silicone, hard plastic, glass, or stainless steel, which are easier to clean. Softer, porous materials can be harder to keep clean, so they're generally better avoided or used with a condom.
• Fit and adjustability. Pay attention to the measurements, especially if you're sharing a toy. For rings, check the internal diameter and how much they stretch. For insertable toys, look at the length and width. If a toy has a hinge or adjustable part, see how much movement it actually allows.
• Power and upkeep. Rechargeable or battery-powered? How long does it run? Is it waterproof or just splashproof? How easy is it to clean? These details aren't particularly exciting, but they can make a big difference in whether a toy ends up getting used regularly.

You don't have to jump straight to something complicated, either. A simple ring or bullet can be an easy first step, while app-controlled wearables and position aids offer more features if you want to explore further. There's no “right” place to start. Choose something that sounds genuinely interesting to both of you.

And have the conversation before you're in the middle of sex. Talk about what sounds fun, what you're curious about, and what you aren't interested in. The goal isn't to find the most impressive toy; it's to find something you're both excited to try. Research backs up the value of that conversation, too: a meta-analysis of 48 studies on couples' sexual communication found that more open sexual communication between couples was associated with greater sexual and relationship satisfaction.

There are a few different ways couples toys can work. Some are designed for both partners to feel the vibration, while others focus the sensation on one person. Some are controlled with buttons on the toy, while others let either partner use a remote or app. The right style comes down to where you want the sensation and how much control you want over it.

Vibrating rings are a popular starting point because they can add stimulation for both partners without requiring either person to hold a separate device. The ring sits around the base of the penis during intercourse, positioning the motor where it can be felt by both partners.

For comfort, look for a ring made from soft, stretchy silicone rather than a rigid material. Flexibility makes it easier to put on and remove, and it's particularly useful if you ever need to take the ring off quickly. Check the manufacturer's instructions for recommended wear time, fit, and removal.

The Adam & Eve Lucas II Vibrating Couples Ring is a good example of the type. It's made from stretchy body-safe silicone with ABS plastic detailing, and its 1.25 inch internal diameter stretches to fit, with an overall size of 3.64 by 2 inches. It offers 10 vibration modes covering steady speeds, pulses, and escalating waves, and the remote handles mode selection, so either of you can change the setting without reaching across each other. It's waterproof, recharges over USB for up to 45 minutes of use per charge with about 100 minutes to fill again, and it takes water-based lubricants only.

Wearable couples vibrators take things a step further. The C-shaped design sits comfortably both inside and out, staying securely in place during penetration so you both feel the vibration while keeping your hands completely free.

The We-Vibe Chorus Couples Massager iis made from silicone and ABS plastic, with an overall length of 3.07 inches. Its insertable arm is 2.5 inches long and 1.71 inches wide. It has two low-pitched motors and 10 built-in modes, plus the option to create your own patterns in the We-Connect app. The remote responds to a squeeze, so one partner can adjust the intensity without having to stop and fiddle with buttons. And because it also works through Bluetooth, the app lets partners control it from different locations. The Chorus is fully waterproof and rechargeable, with up to 90 minutes of use per charge. For cleanup, warm soapy water or toy cleaner will do the job, and it's compatible with water-based lubricants. Not sure how it's positioned? The guide to using the We-Vibe Chorus walks you through the setup before you commit.

Remote- and app-controlled toys are really about who’s in control, rather than what the toy itself looks like. With a remote-controlled vibrator, one partner can change the settings from across the room, making the anticipation part of the fun. App-controlled toys take that a step further, letting partners control things even when they’re in different cities. If you’re looking for something small and easy to use, bullet vibrators are a simple place to start. And if you’d rather keep your hands free, panty vibrators and other wearable options make that possible.

Wands and air-pulse toys aren't necessarily designed with couples in mind, but that doesn't mean you can't use them together. One partner can hold and position the toy while the other enjoys the stimulation. Wand massagers tend to offer broad, powerful vibrations over a larger area, making them a good option for anyone who prefers a more full-bodied sensation over the more focused feeling of a smaller vibrator. Air-pulse stimulators work differently, using suction-style pulses rather than pressing against the body, so they're often a better match if direct contact feels too intense.

Position aids are another option if comfort is part of what you're looking for. Wedges and ramps help support your body and hold you at a different angle, which can make certain positions easier on your knees, hips, and back. They can also take some of the physical effort out of staying in one position, so you can focus more on enjoying yourselves.

Liberator makes several popular position aids, including wedges and ramps. If you're curious about how they work, our guide to using a Liberator wedge can give you a better idea of what it changes.

There are a few other options you might want to consider:

• Kits and bundles. Sex toy kits give you several sensations to explore, which helps when neither of you is sure yet what you like best.
• Adult games. Adult games make choosing what to try part of the fun. They can also be an easy, low-pressure way to bring up ideas you might want to explore together.
• Bondage and sensory starters. Bondage kits and blindfolds are a simple way to add a little variety by taking away one sense or limiting movement. They can make familiar activities feel different without requiring much equipment. If you're trying them for the first time, agree on a stop signal beforehand and make sure anything you're using to restrict movement isn't too tight.
• Anal play. If you're looking to try something different together, anal toys can introduce new sensations and give couples another way to explore what feels good.
• Strap-ons and harnesses. Strap-on toys can work for all kinds of couples and body types. The main things to look for are a harness that fits comfortably and a toy made from a material you feel good about using.
• A surprise pick. A mystery box for couples can take some of the guesswork out of choosing what to try next. Instead of researching individual products, you get a mix of surprises to explore together, which can make it a fun way to shake things up without having to plan everything in advance.

Using a sex toy together should feel comfortable for both people, and that starts with consent. Saying yes once doesn't mean you've agreed to everything that follows. Consent can change at any point, including in the middle of using a toy. Planned Parenthood describes consent as freely given, reversible, informed, enthusiastic, and specific. In practice, that can be as simple as checking in, agreeing on who controls the toy, and stopping when either person wants to stop. No explanation is required.

Comfort matters just as much. The person receiving the stimulation gets to decide what feels comfortable, including the size, pressure, and intensity. If something feels sore, tender, or uncomfortable, don't try to push through it or treat discomfort as something you need to work up to. Start with a smaller, smoother option and increase intensity only if it feels good.

Choose the Right Lubricant

Lubricant is one of those small details that can make a big difference. Water-based lubricant is generally the easiest choice because it works with most toy materials and is compatible with latex condoms. Silicone lubricant can damage some silicone toys, so check the manufacturer's instructions before pairing the two. Oil-based products are another combination to avoid with latex and you should never use petroleum jelly, mineral oil, massage oils, body lotions, and cooking oils with latex condoms because they can weaken the material.

When a toy's instructions specify a particular type of lubricant, follow them. A few seconds spent checking the product information is easier than discovering that your lubricant and toy aren't compatible.

Clean Toys Between Uses

Cleaning doesn't need to become a complicated ritual. Unless the manufacturer says otherwise, wash the toy with warm water and mild, unscented soap or use a toy cleaner, paying particular attention to seams, textured areas, and moving parts. Let it dry completely before storing it.

There isn't one universally accepted, evidence-based cleaning standard for every type of sex toy, so the manufacturer's cleaning instructions should come first. Research has also found that material matters: smooth, nonporous materials such as silicone are generally easier to clean thoroughly than softer, more porous materials.

If you're sharing an insertable toy, using a new condom over it between partners is an additional way to reduce contact with bodily fluids. And if a toy is used anally, clean it thoroughly before using it anywhere else.

Know When to Stop

Some toys also have their own safety considerations. For example, guidance for vibrating rings commonly recommends limiting wear time and removing the ring immediately if there is pain, numbness, coldness, or a change in skin color. Don't sleep while wearing one.

Most importantly, a sex toy is a pleasure product, not a treatment for a medical problem. If you experience persistent pain, numbness, bleeding, skin changes, or another symptom that concerns you, stop using the toy and speak with a healthcare professional rather than trying to solve the problem by switching products.

Fit is one of the first things couples want to know about, yet it’s often one of the least clearly explained details on a product page. Don’t rely on a single measurement. For a ring, consider the opening size alongside how flexible the material is. A 1.25-inch opening in soft silicone can feel very different from the same size in a rigid material. For insertable toys, width is usually more useful for judging comfort than length, while a flexible or hinged arm can accommodate different bodies and angles more easily than a fixed design.

Noise can matter just as much as performance, particularly if you live with other people or share walls. Don’t assume that “quiet” means silent. The pitch of the motor matters too: a lower-pitched hum may be less noticeable than a higher-pitched buzz, even at a similar volume. Check the manufacturer’s actual noise specifications when they’re available. If there’s no information, treat that as something to verify rather than assuming the toy is quiet.

Battery life can make the difference between a seamless experience and an interruption. Look for a stated runtime rather than vague claims about long-lasting power. For example, the We-Vibe Chorus Couples Massager is rated for up to 90 minutes per charge, while the Adam & Eve Lucas II Vibrating Couples Ring is rated for up to 45 minutes. If you know you’ll want to use it for longer sessions, a model with a longer stated runtime may be worth prioritizing.

Connectivity is another detail worth checking before you buy. Bluetooth-enabled toys need to stay within range of the phone, while long-distance control is handled through the companion app. If the connection drops, move the phone closer, make sure the app is still running as required, and use the toy’s physical controls if available.

Water resistance deserves the same careful reading. “Waterproof” and “splash resistant” are not interchangeable terms, so check the manufacturer’s exact rating before using a toy in or around water. When in doubt, follow the product’s stated instructions rather than assuming it can be submerged.

Two simple accessories can instantly upgrade any couples toy. The first is lube. Look for a good, quality water-based lubricant since it is compatible with almost every sex toy material and with latex condoms. Before you start, and once play is over, a toy cleaner ensures your toy is fresh, clean and ready to use. It's particularly useful if you are going to be sharing toys with a partner, or putting a condom over a shared insertable toy is another simple option to try.

From there, you can decide on what toy you're both interested in. Go to penis rings if you want something that adds to the sex you already like, couples vibrators if you want a toy that stays in place for both of you, or sex toy kits if you'd rather explore a few sensations before deciding. When you're ready, shop sex toys for couples at Adam & Eve and choose it together.