What Is The Swinging Reverse Cowgirl Sex Position
Swinging Reverse Cowgirl is a variation of reverse cowgirl that uses a low, kneeling position and a back-and-forth rocking motion. The partner on top faces away and supports themselves on their hands and knees, while the partner underneath leans back on their arms. Instead of lifting and lowering the body, the movement comes from rocking the hips forward and back.
The position feels different from standard reverse cowgirl because the body stays lower and more supported throughout the movement. Compared with cowgirl, the partner on top is facing away rather than toward their partner. The hands-and-knees position also spreads weight across the body, although comfort can depend on how your knees, wrists, and hips feel in the position.
Swinging Reverse Cowgirl can also refer to a version performed in a sex swing, where the suspended seat or straps provide support instead of the bed or floor. This guide covers both variations, starting with the bed-and-floor version.
How to Get Into Swinging Reverse Cowgirl
Start with whoever is going underneath. That partner lies back on a bed or another stable surface and comes up onto the forearms or straight arms, leaning back rather than lying flat. Bending the knees slightly gives the partner on top something to brace against, and it's much easier to set that up before anyone is in position than to sort it out mid-movement.
- The partner on top straddles their partner's hips, facing away, and settles onto their knees with hands planted on the bed ahead of them.
- Lower onto your shins so your weight is shared between your knees and your hands, then take your time finding the depth that feels right before you add any motion.
- Rock your hips forward and back in a slow grind, staying in contact instead of lifting away and coming back down.
That third step is what makes this position different from other similar positions. A bounce separates and reconnects, while a rock stays in contact and changes the angle continuously, which tends to concentrate sensation against the front wall of the vagina and gives the partner underneath a steady view.
Once the motion is going, small shifts do most of the work. Leaning forward onto your hands opens the angle one way, and sitting back toward your heels closes it the other way, so try both and see which one you like. Moving your hands from the bed to your partner's shins or thighs changes how much leverage you have. None of this has to look a particular way, so slow down, adjust, and keep whatever feels good.
Swinging Reverse Cowgirl Variations: Rocking, Bouncing, and Sex Swing
The rocking version keeps the partner on top low to the bed, with weight supported by the hands and knees. The movement stays mostly forward and back, which puts more of the work through the hips and less through the thighs. The trade-off is that your knees and wrists have to support you, so padding can make a noticeable difference.
The more upright version, usually what people mean by standard reverse cowgirl, uses a sitting or squatting position and an up-and-down motion. It requires more work from the thighs and core, but it gives you more control over how much the angle and depth change with each movement. If you prefer a lower-effort, rocking motion, the hands-and-knees version may be easier to maintain. If you prefer a more upright position and greater changes in movement, standard reverse cowgirl may suit you better.
Your surface matters, too. A supportive mattress with some cushioning under the knees can make the rocking version much more comfortable. If your mattress is very soft or you’re on the floor, a folded blanket or position pillow can provide extra support. Adam & Eve also has guides to sex furniture and a hands-on walkthrough on how to use a wedge if you want to explore additional support.
A sex swing is a separate variation rather than simply a more advanced version. The straps support the partner on top, reducing the amount of weight placed on the knees, wrists, and thighs. It does require more preparation, including a suitable swing and secure setup, but it can make the rocking motion easier to sustain for longer.
Staying Comfortable and Checking In
Because the partner on top is facing away, checking in with each other is especially useful. Either of you can pause, change the angle, or stop at any point, and a simple question like “Is this comfortable?” can help you stay in sync. The partner underneath can also join the movement rather than leaving all the work to the partner on top.
A little extra support can make the position much easier on your joints. Try a folded pillow under the knees, and add one behind the lower back if the partner underneath wants more support. If your wrists become uncomfortable, change your hand position or shift some of your weight onto your partner’s legs.
Lubricant can also help when there’s more movement and friction. Water-based lubricant is a straightforward option, and NHS guidance on lubricant recommends water-based lubricant with if you will be using a condom, as it is compatible with most materials. If your condom is latex, just make sure to avoid oil-based products such as petroleum jelly and body lotion, which can weaken the latex and increase the risk of breakage
Finding Your Balance and Rhythm
Once you’re in position, give yourself a little time to find your balance. Keeping your knees comfortably apart and your hands slightly ahead of your shoulders can give you a steadier base. Start slowly and adjust your position before settling into a faster or deeper rhythm.
The hands-and-knees position also changes how the effort is distributed. The partner on top does most of the movement, but the partner underneath can contribute by moving their hips to meet the motion. Taking breaks, changing positions, or adding a pillow under the knees can help if your legs or joints start to feel tired.
If you want to use a vibrator, the rocking motion leaves the partner on top with relatively easy access while the other partner can remain in position. A small vibrator can work well with this type of movement, particularly if you prefer stimulation that stays consistent rather than moving with each bounce.
And if the position simply doesn’t feel right for your bodies, there’s no need to force it. Try adjusting the angle, adding support, or exploring another cowgirl variation. Small changes in positioning can make a significant difference in comfort.
Lube, Pillows, and Swings Worth Having Nearby
A few simple additions can make Swinging Reverse Cowgirl easier to maintain. If your knees or your partner’s lower back need extra support, a position pillow can help you stay comfortable without constantly adjusting. An inflatable option, such as the Adam & Eve Inflatable Position Pillow is also easy to store when you’re not using it.
Lubricant is another useful addition, particularly if you plan to keep the rocking motion going for a while. A water-based formula is a versatile choice, and keeping it within reach means you can reapply without stopping to get up. Adam & Eve Personal Lubricant is one option to consider.
If you prefer the suspended version, a sex swing changes the experience by taking some of the weight off the partner on top. The Adam & Eve Spinning Sex Swing also allows for more movement and rotation than you can get on a bed. Give yourself time to set it up securely before using it, especially the first time.
Start with a comfortable surface, take your time finding the right rhythm, and add support or lubricant if they make the position work better for you.
Ready to get comfortable? Browse position aids at Adam & Eve and pick a shape that appeals to you, then add a water-based lubricant to go with it.
