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Dear Alyssa,

This does put you in the driver's seat. A good way to look at it is that you have simply had experiences that he hasn't yet and lucky you; you're the person that gets to assist him on this journey.

There are plenty of ways this could work to your advantage. He's a bit of a blank slate - although I'm sure he's had some experiences where he has gotten close to intercourse before. But this way, you get to set the bar yourself. He doesn't have any preconceived notions for how this will actually go down. The best thing you could do for the both of you is to really communicate to him what your likes and dislikes are. I'm not saying you sit him down for a lecture, but during the course of intimacy, you do things like guide his hand, provide verbal reinforcement for what works for you and of course, model what it's like to be a great reciprocal partner. Setting up a healthy foundation for you sexuality together will serve you well in your relationship. This is the time to set up good patterns in communication and behavior - like getting consistent about the use of condoms and birth control too.

I would also ask that you be patient and not have too many expectations from his end the first few times you jump into bed together. This will let him off the hook a bit so he doesn't feel under pressure because I guarantee you he is putting himself under enough pressure. And it sounds like you are feeling the pressure of being his first too. The main thing is to have fun with it and let things flow in an organic way. Just focus on making it a positive experience for everyone involved. The fun and enjoyment will be a product of the both of you being fully present in the moment together.

Sincerely,
Dr. Kat

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