Bondage experts share their top tips and advice for beginners. Learn about equipping your “sex dungeon,” preparing for your first bondage session, sharing control and more… if you don’t want to get a spanking!

Essential Tips for Bondage Beginners

5 Essential Bondage Tips for Beginners

More people than ever are trying bondage for the first time. But you should check out these expert tips and advice before joining the fun to make sure you have a safe and enjoyable experience.

 

Don’t Go On a Spending Spree
If you’re just experimenting with bondage, there’s no need to spend hundreds on all sorts of exotic equipment that you might never need. You can easily find a good beginners kit with restraints, blindfolds, and other items so you can easily explore all the different aspects of bondage and kinky sex. If you’re feeling creative, you can even find a lot of everyday items in your house or closet that can be turned in bondage toys. Neckties can be used to tie up lovers into various positions. Rulers or wooden spoons make great paddles. And there’s no rule that says you even need sex toys at all. Some of the most experienced bondage practitioners can utterly dominate their partners with just a few words.

 

Talk It Out
Trust is vital for a safe and healthy bondage session. Sit down with your partner ahead of time to talk about your plans and establish boundaries. Make sure you both agree on what actions are and are not acceptable. And be sure you’re both familiar with the safe word so you know when it’s time to stop.

 

Start Off Simple
Don’t do anything too complicated to start with. You’re trying to have fun not earn a merit badge for your Shibari knot work. Tease your lover’s senses with a blindfold and an ice cube or a feather. Try tying your partner’s hands together with paper streamers or something else that they can easily escape. Look for handcuffs that come with padding around the wrists and use Velcro instead of keys. Starting simple gives you and your partner time to adjust and build trust in each other so you can try more advanced things like vibrating nipple clamps or metal bondage toys in the future.

 

Share Control
The typical bondage relationship involves a dominant partner calling the shots while the submissive partner follows their orders. It might seem like the dominant partner is completely in control. But healthy bondage relationships actually involve both partners sharing control and responding to each other. The best doms keep a close eye on their sub’s body language and reactions so they know when to push the envelope and when to slow things down. And they also take pleasure in satisfying their partner’s needs as well as their own.

 

Let Your Sub Down Easy
A great bondage session gives subs an intense emotional high. Unfortunately, it also leaves the subs crashing down once it’s over. This phenomenon, known as sub drop in the bondage community, can be a depressing and physically exhausting experience. A good dom will help support their sub afterward and help them work through it.