Most strap-on dildos require an awkward and complicated harness with a ton of straps and buckles in weird places. Strapless strap ons, however, do away with the harness completely so you can focus on having fun instead of worrying about your harness coming loose. Learn more about these unique sex toys and how strapless strap ons work.

How Do Strapless Strap Ons Work?

Strap-on dildos can be tons of fun. Strap-on harnesses, on the other hand, are usually anything but. These harnesses fit around your waist, hips and thighs and include all types of awkward buckles and straps to hold your strap-on dildo in place. Strap-on harnesses can be difficult to put on, hard to hold in place, and just look plain weird – almost like you’re going mountain climbing after having sex. But you can’t exactly do away with the harness if you want to wear a strap on, right?

How do Strapless Strap Ons Work?

Wrong! Strapless strap-ons cut the harness out completely – opening up all kinds of new opportunities and fun for any woman who wants to use a dildo on their partner. Lesbian couples can use strapless dildos for mutual stimulation and penetration. And even hetero couples can use them for pegging and role reversal.

Strapless strap-ons are very similar to double dildos in that both ends of the sex toy are made to be used at the same time. The two dildos have different shapes, though. Strapless dildos are usually shaped like a capitalized letter “L,” while double dildos are like a lower-case “l.”

How to Use a Strapless Strap-On Dildo

The short end of the strapless strap-on is shaped similar to a butt plug, with a tapered tip, large body and then a narrow shaft connecting it to the rest of the toy. This allows the woman to insert the short end, nicknamed the saddle horn, inside her vagina and hold it in place with her Kegel muscles. That leaves the longer end sticking out like it came from inside her body, making it look much more realistic than a strap-on held in place with a harness. As you use the sex toy, the saddle horn rubs against your G-Spot so you can experience some of the same sensations as your partner for mutual pleasure.

The biggest drawback to strapless dildos is that you need strong Kegels to hold in place. If you’re interested in using a strapless strap on, we suggest picking up a pair of Ben Wa Balls and start squeezing. If you stick to a regular Kegel workout, your muscles should be strong enough to hold the dildo in place within a month or two. If you want to try it right away, look for strapless dildos with larger saddle horns. It might seem counter-intuitive, but these are easier to hold in place than smaller ones.

The Pros & Cons of Strapless Strap Ons

+ No complicated straps or buckles to put on, so you can use them quickly and easily
+ Stimulates both partners at the same time
+ The wearer can feel her partner’s reactions for a more intimate experience
Require strong Kegel muscles to stay in place
Usually costs more than a harness of similar quality
Much fewer options than strap-on harnesses

Dr. Jenni is an AASECT-certified therapist and sexologist with a doctorate in clinical sexology and a master of education in counseling psychology and marriage and family therapy.


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