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You can Ask Dr. Kat by emailing her at ask@drkat.com. Dear Dr. Kat, I'd like to feel sexier about my monthly breast exams instead of it feeling like a chore. How can I do this and get my husband in on the act? Cici Dear Cici, It is National Breast Health Month. Here are my suggestions on turning the heat up and involving your partner in your breast health. Keep in mind that you should never use someone else's judgment for your own when it comes to your breasts - whether they are your partner or your doctor. If you feel something is different or wrong with your body keep pursuing it medically until you feel satisfied. Also, the suggestions below are designed to complement the steps of your normal breast self-exam not to replace them... Introductions, please… I know many of you think your partners are already quite familiar with your breasts. After all, breast stimulation or getting "Felt Up" is usually considered "First Base". However, what we're looking for here is for your partner to develop a new relationship with them. Breast exams don't have to be considered a scary thing. They are a positive practice to keep your breasts healthy. Since he's going to be a part of the team give him the heads up on the history of your breasts. For instance, if you have fibrocystic lumps that you have been told are normal by your doctor, be sure to not only let your partner know about them ahead of time but also take his hand and show him what they feel like. This way he won't mistake these lumps for others - there is a difference in the way they feel. Another introduction to your breasts might take place at your OB/Gyn's office. Have your partner go with you. This is usually a truly enlightening experience for most men. If you can have him in the exam room with you, the doc can give him a personal tutorial. An additional bonus is that you can often have the OB/Gyn even show him your cervix during the vaginal part of your exam…but that should be a whole 'nother month to celebrate (National Love Your Cervix Month?) Anyway… Set the Stage… Do make the environment comfortable and friendly. Turn the lights down and light a few candles. Perhaps a little pre-exam make out session will help the both you relax into it. Stand in front of a mirror with your partner behind you. Notice how your breasts look in the light. Have him reach around feel the weight of your breasts and how they hang off of you. Then move to the bed and lay back. Follow the breast exam instructions, but stay in front of the mirror if you can. Be sure to give feedback to each other. See if you can both communicate the sensation each one of you is feeling. Continue Reading | Back to Top |
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Candidly Speaking In August I spoke of the importance of a positive body image, and promised to give you some hints on how to enhance your "attainable" beauty from the inside out. I described "in-attainable" beauty as that which we see in fashion ads and movie posters: young women and men whose bodies, even with the perfection of youth, are photo-shopped to remove the slightest flaw. Few of us will ever look like these fashion plates - or necessarily want to. (Most men prefer a bit of curvy flesh on a woman while few women want a man who spends more time on his appearance than she does!) We're much harder on ourselves in terms of how we look than our partners are. What is attainable are qualities that are far more important in terms of attracting a mate; those that appeal to our sense of smell, taste, and touch; the ones that stand out when the lights are dimmed. The best way to drive your mate wild with desire is to enhance your natural qualities from the inside out. Begin with your diet: the more fruits and vegetables you eat, the sweeter you'll smell and taste, from the perspiration you emit to the wetness of a woman and the ejaculate of a man. Drinking lots of water and natural juices without added sugar guarantees a lighter, more pleasant taste, smell and consistency. A diet rich in red meat and alcohol produces the opposite effect: your scents and tastes become bitter, acidic. Working your way outward, bathing is obviously important, especially before making love. For a special treat, soak in oil-infused water and scrub yourself with a natural loofah sponge to re-juvinate and soften your skin so that it feels smooth and silky. Finally, there's nothing like skin that's been nourished with moisturizing cream, preferably made of natural ingredients (shop in your local health food store). It's important not to smother your own intoxicating scent with too many artificially sweet smells; we're programmed to respond to the hormonal messages given off by one's own natural 'fragrance'. Be sure to create a flattering environment with the use of lighting. I prefer low-wattage amber colored bulbs placed in lamps around the room – never overhead lights! Place bowls of fruit and other taste treats around the room, and plenty of non-alcoholic drinks to keep the juices flowing. Then, when it comes time, step in to something flowing and silky, and you've created a feast for the senses. It's been said that the most potent aphrodisiac is the scent of your lover. You have now insured that your lover will forever come back for more. Candida Royalle is a former star of the blue movie screen who in 1984 created Femme Productions® and pioneered the genre of woman-friendly adult erotica. In 1999, she launched the Euro-designed Natural Contours® line of high-style discreet intimate products. She's the author of How to Tell a Naked Man What to Do: Sex Advice From a Woman who Knows; and a sought after speaker on topics ranging from how to have great sex to the politics of free expression. Royalle's product lines are available through AdamEve.com. For more information about Candida Royalle, visit www.candidaroyalle.com. |
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