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Adam & Eve's Monthly Newsletter - November 2015 (continued)

This month Adam & Eve asks…
Which erotic edible would make it into your bedroom foreplay?
Whipped Cream
Chocolate Sauce
Mango
Grapefruit
Coconut Oil
Pumpkin Pie
No way. Food belongs in the kitchen.
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Sex Position of the Month

Sex Position of the Month: Legs Up (continued)

A modified version of missionary, this position helps increase stimulation for both partners. Start with the first person lying flat on their back with their legs lifted up - allowing for easier access, more maneuverability and deeper penetration. Once the second person joins in, the first can rest their legs on their lover's shoulders. This elevates the first person's hips, raising the angle of penetration for more effective G-Spot stimulation.

Dr. Kat

A&E's Resident Sex Expert: Dr. Kat (continued)

Your questions answered Dr. Kat Van Kirk, a AASECT certified Sex Therapist and licensed Marriage Therapist.
 

Q&A: Getting Frisky When Holiday Visitors are In the House

Dear Dr. Kat,

My husband and I are getting prepared to have a lot of family over for the holidays. The problem is that we're concerned that having family stay with us will affect our sex life negatively. With my parents staying in the next room and his nieces down the hall we don't know how we'll be able to have sex the way we like to. Specifically, I have a favorite vibrator that's pretty loud. Are we just going to have to "close up shop" for a couple of weeks or are there other options?

Thank you,
Arminda

Dear Arminda,

The holidays can be a difficult family time -- never mind the potential negative effects it can have on a couple's sex life. This is especially true if an extended visit by family-members is involved. One can understand why some people do indeed just "close up shop", as you say, rather than even attempting being sexual.

Luckily, however, you and your husband do have options. For instance, you can make a game out of having sex when family visits -- regressing back to those teenage years of sneaking around! That can increase the taboo around being sexual and make it more exciting all round, but do be very careful, if you don't want to risk getting caught. Instead, you might try locking yourself into the laundry-room, or perhaps have a shower together. Actually, all this sneaky sex can be a nice way of "breaking in" the other rooms of the house you haven't had sex in before.

If you want to be a bit more formal about it all (especially during longer family-stays), then schedule a "date" for the two of you and treat yourself to a hotel-room for that night. I know of one financially-strapped couple who likes to find a seedy hotel-room by the hour, where they role-play like mad before returning to their families as if they had just been running errands.

If you want to keep it more low-key but do want to build sexual anticipation, perhaps you could put a moratorium on penetration and/or oral sex during this time. Decide to go back to when just "making out" was exciting and new. Give each other little pats on the rear when no one is looking, or run your hand up your husband's leg under the dinner table. Even just writing each other sexy notes, and then masturbating to them, can be a real turn-on.

If you want to be able to use your vibrator without your husband having to vacuum over the sound, you might like to treat yourself to a newer, quieter vibe. Try wearing a remote panty vibe under your clothes and having your partner control the stimulation from up to 25 feet away, or get some discreet clitoral attention with a vibe that fits over your finger. For other non-noisy holiday vibrator suggestions see Adam and Eve.

Sincerely,

Dr. Kat

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Savor The Flavors Of Summer! (Continued)

The Latest Sexting Do's & Don'ts (continued)

We've looked around and discovered that, yes, you really can have some harmless fun with sexting and not go viral at the same time.

What is sexting? If you're really asking that, then you're in for a treat! Sexting is the sending and receiving of sexually explicit messages, photos and videos over cell phones.

Here are 6 easy rules for sexting.

1. Keep it anonymous-looking. Never show your face (or anyone else's). Actually, it's better to tease your lover with a flash of skin or show some lingerie (or a sex toy) than anything fully explicit.

2. Flirt instead of communicating anything explicit. Less is more! (If the relationship ends, at least you haven't sent anything horribly explicit to be shared.)

3. Don't sext anything you'd never say in person. Just be yourself. At first, mirror how you both interact in person. If you both want to expand your boundaries, it's good to know where those boundaries are in the first place.

4. Don't send anything you wouldn't want anyone else to see. And what's the point of this? Because even the nicest guy may find it hard not to share a super hot image of his lover. (And there's also that "what-if-we-break-up" thing).

5. Don't drink and sext. We'll leave it to your imagination how this could possibly go so very wrong!

6. Don't use sexting to introduce yourself to someone you've just met. The research shows that unwanted pictures of penises tend to make recipients shy away -- forever!

Pros & Cons Of Texting


Sexting works best when it's between two people who are already in a committed relationship. It adds spice and can become another avenue of communication.

The cons are all about what if the messages and images get shared inappropriately or fall into the wrong hands. At the same time, this risk is also what makes it so exciting for some people.

Remember, it's a form of play. A word of caution: some couples get so into sexting, it becomes a substitute for the real thing. And that's no fun, is it?

Breaking the Ice: 5 Cool Tips For Naughty Fun This Summer! (Continued)

Travel Safely (And Secretly) With Your Sex Toys (continued)

Unfortunately, it can seem like everyone from the TSA to nosy relatives is ready to bust you. So how do you keep your toys incognito?

First, know your enemy. Do you just want to avoid the TSA's prying eyes while traveling through airport security? Good news: they aren't looking for (and don't want to find) your toys. As you pack, pick toys that won't accidentally activate. Make sure and remove all batteries completely from battery-operated toys, and only travel with rechargeables if they've got a travel lock feature. Pro tip: remember to actually activate the travel lock.

If you want to really fly under the radar at the airport, put your locked, battery-less sex toys into your checked baggage. As long as nothing is vibrating, your chances of being searched are low, and the chance the agent searching has seen much worse already that same day is near 100%. If you must keep toys in your carry-on bags, they should be under 7" long, the TSA's allowable length for ‘hand tools'. If your toys are bigger, either check ‘em or don't bring ‘em.

It's also suggested you pack sex toys in a clear plastic zip-top bag. That way any agent with a question can handle the bag without handling your toys. If an agent does ask you what something is, the best response is to be straightforward and honest. Answer "my vibrator/cock ring/anal thruster" and that'll be that.

Evading your relatives is much tougher than working around the TSA - especially if you're staying in their home. The sweetest of family members may insist on helping you unpack, and the sneakiest may feel the need to nose through your luggage while you're out.

Here, you can try camouflage. Put vibes like the Lelo Mia 2, the We-Vibe Tango, and the Rocks-Off Bamboo Bullet in your makeup bag and they're virtually indistinguishable from a tube of lipstick. Use a cock ring in place of a rubber band to hold together toiletries like your toothbrush and toothpaste. Wired bullets can go unnoticed under a morass of various wires for your electronic devices.

The bigger toys take more effort to hide. Keep your vibrating rabbit inside a pouch for a curling iron, hopefully next to a hair dryer to throw the curious off your scent. Smaller strokers, cock rings, and butt plugs can be slipped into a tennis shoe. Stuff rolls of socks on top for maximum security. Wrap your dildo in a piece of clothing and hide it along the bottom of your suitcase, where it can blend into the dark like a ninja.

Did the smuggling operation go well? Great. Now you're ready to play with your sex toys. Put on some music to cover the sounds of your pleasure and/or the device's operation. A set of bedcovers can go a long way to muffle noise. Still, remember the best time to give yourself a little holiday cheer is any time family won't be knocking on your door, like the early morning or late at night.

Do you know when the next best time to play with toys is? Right now. Load up before you go with all the travel-friendly sex toys right here at Adam & Eve.