A&E's Resident Sex Expert: Dr. Kat (continued)

Your questions answered Dr. Kat Van Kirk, an AASECT certified Sex Therapist and licensed Marriage Therapist. This month's question is…

Q&A: The dog days of summer. Teddy wants to turn up the heat.

Dear Dr. Kat,

My wife and I need to turn up the heat in the worst way. It's dinner and a movie every single date night and those are far and few between. The worst thing is that by the time we get home from that, we are wiped. What can we do to get the fireworks back?

8 years together and 3 kids,

Sincerely,
Teddy

Dear Teddy,

I know it's supposed to be the "summer of love" but many parents end up running themselves ragged during the summer months with crazy kid schedules, work and family "vacations". It takes a lot of energy!

But getting the sizzle back into your sex life isn't as difficult as you think.

Become an opportunist when it comes to sex. Don't just have the default date night. Any time can become a "date". Meeting one another for a sexy lunch or jumping in the shower together first thing is a great way to connect. But there are even toys that support creating fireworks on those date nights and in between…

Yes, schedule the babysitter but this time -- take the kids to their house and you come home to devote yourselves to creating some sparks of your own. The Couples Enhancer Ring creates consistent pleasure for both him and her.

You know you want to create your own shades of grey. This beginner kit is perfect for exploring without being intimidating.

Gotta get dinner in? Then gift her with these remote panties that she can wear while you are out. You control her pleasure remotely! Did someone say dessert?

That quickie shower in the AM means you can even turn the heat up there. The Wet Wabbit sets the standard for it's ease of use, three pleasure points (including G-Spot) and being waterproof. Get your day started off right.

My favorite new sensual! Seriously. This product is a sexy aromatherapy candle that when you light it also becomes a fabulous massage oil and lube. Book a night at the hotel just for the both of you and learn to linger in your sensuality together.

Sincerely,

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5 Sexy Surprises For A Great Date Night! (continued)

Hand Over The Remote. Remote control vibrators have been around for a while, but in the last few years the power, functions, and distances at which they work have gotten some serious upgrades. Slip it in/on underneath clothes, hand over the remote, and let your lover tease you with vibes while you walk down a crowded street or dance at a nightclub. If the noise gets you caught, claim it's your cell phone and high tail it out of there!

Dress To Impress. Before you get suited up, slip on a pair of super-sexy panties or underwear. Ladies can push the envelope with a garter belt and thigh highs; Gentlemen can get wild in a jock-enhancing brief or thong. Give your lover a glimpse at the beginning of the night to get pulses racing. Or send a racy snap of you modeling your new lingerie any time.

Enjoy The Great Outdoors. Grab a blanket or two and take your lover out for a night of star gazing. Get frisky in or on the car if you dare, or drape the blanket over both of you and use your hands or a discreet toy like a bullet or lipstick vibe for an undercover tease. Make sure to keep watch - the thrill is half the fun.

Lube Wrestling Match. Note: this is not for the faint of heart. But if you've got a generous bottle (or two) of lube and an inflatable mattress, start with a lubed-up massage and work your way into a super slick and sweaty wrestling match. Try different holds and positions like leg locks while you revel in the feel of slippery skin on skin. Segue straight into something hot and heavy, or skate over to the shower and get even friskier under the water. Bring towels - lube gets slippery.

Get Really Kinky. Already kinky? It's time to take your next session one step further. Many people have experimented with bondage ties, but have you ever cuffed your lover to the back of the door and made them beg? And sure, you've played doctor, but have you tried role playing wearing a furry cat or fox tail anal plug? Love discipline, but want more than the usual paddle? Make date night shocking with an Electro Sex Kit.

Ready to have the wildest date night of your life? Find the gear you need and plenty of other surprises now at Adam & Eve.

Sex Position of the Month (continued): Push Up Illustrated Sex Position

This innovative sex position combines some of the best features of both missionary and cowgirl to create a unique position that's sure to please you and your lover.

Difficulty Level
Beginner - a basic sex position that almost anyone can do

Pros & Cons
+ Brings you and your partner close together
+ Allows the woman to take charge and set the pace
- Not conducive for fast-paced action
- Can be more tiring than other positions

Instructions
The Push Up Position is similar to both cowgirl and missionary. Start with the man lying flat on his back with his knees bent up. The woman lies down on top of him with her hands to the side for support, allowing her to move up and down. This position brings you and your partner close together for the intimacy of missionary, while leaving her in control just like cowgirl.

Eve's Tip: Some couples find it easier to start out in missionary and then just roll over together. Changing positions in the middle of things without having to stop can be a lot of fun too.

New - Review Roundup! (continued)

Pink Passion Masturbator
Good thing my husband and I are goofs. First, I had trouble getting it on his 'thing', then I got lube all over the place, and then, it flew off and bonced across the bed. We had a lot of fun though. My husband said it did feel good but it was kind of short. Maybe we're idiots and no one else will have a time like we did but it was a lot of fun.

Lucid Dreams #28 Vibrator
i bought this for my girlfriend and i to use and whoa momma!!! she was speaking in tongues from the get go. This was the best 25 bucks i've ever spent, and thats saying alot cause we have a chest full of toys!

Mighty Mite Vibrator
The folks at Adam & Eve must be psychic! We received this little powerhouse as a free gift recently, and it couldn't have arrived at a better time. A few years ago we got a Mighty Mite vibe with a previous order (another freebee)and my gorgeous lover used it to it's limits for those quality alone times. Everything has a lifespan and the Mighty Mite lived an impressive long and orgasmic life. So, you can only imagine how delighted we were when it was magically replaced at exactly the right time. This new vibe is slightly more streamlined than our original, but it's essentially the same and delivers bigtime.

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