Forbidden Fruit Newsletter

Adam & Eve's Monthly Newsletter - December 2015 (continued)

This month Adam & Eve asks…
Are You on Santa's Naughty List or Nice List?
Naughty List - I've been very bad.
Nice List - I've been as sweet as sugar!
Poll Maker
See the results in next month's newsletter
Sex Position of the Month

Sex Position of the Month (continued): Changing Perspective

This position is great for couples interested in sex outside the bedroom. The position itself is pretty easy. The woman starts standing up with her legs slightly spread, while the male approaches her from behind. This leaves him perfectly positioned to play with her breasts and her clit during sex. The large degree of contact makes this position great for increased intimacy. However, it does require a little more stamina than usual. We suggest starting out with this position before switching over to another… preferably something that involves the couch or a large table.

Dr. Kat

A&E's Resident Sex Expert: Dr. Kat (continued)

Your questions answered Dr. Kat Van Kirk, a AASECT certified Sex Therapist and licensed Marriage Therapist. This month's question is…

Q&A: Holiday Season Stress = No Sex

Dear Dr. Kat,

I always find myself super stressed out from before Thanksgiving until the kids go back to school after New Year's Eve. In fact, my husband pointed out that last year we only had sex once during that whole time. I don't want this season to be more of the same. Any ideas?

Thank you,
Darby

Dear Darby,

'Tis the season for stress and lack of sex. This is an issue that comes up in many, many households. You'd think the time of year that is about enjoying your life and feeling connected to your partner and family shouldn't annihilate your sex life. Let me give you some reinforcement for prioritizing sex with your hubby this year.

• Sex is actually a stress reliever. Yes! It calms your central nervous system, can help you relax and even promotes better sleep.
• Staying connected to your partner during stressful periods can help you feel more support from him/her and remind you of all of the wonderful reasons you are together versus focusing on the negativity of what has to get done.
• Sex allows you to refocus and become more present moment; which you can apply to other aspects of your life. It can help you find the joy in each experience.
• Orgasm is good for you. It gets you into your body and out of your head and your hundreds of checklists.
• Sex improves the immune system so that you stay healthy over the holidays.
• Orgasm can be cathartic. It can help you release anger and anxiety.

Now, how to make sex happen more? Begin using sex and orgasm as a tool to achieve the benefits above. Typically men are a little better at doing this since they tend to masturbate/have sex as a stress reliever more often. Most women are simply missing out. So get on the wagon;)

That being said, become an opportunist when it comes to sex; whether that's jumping in the shower with your hubby or sneaking in a quickie before the kids get up. Allow quickie sex to be enough during periods of stress.

Commit to getting in at least a couple of date nights over the season. Put visiting family to work. Then find your own Inspiration Point.

Make it fun by using sex coupons. If you simply can't be sexual for a few days, slip your partner a coupon to cash in when you do. It creates a sense of fun and anticipation.

All the research says that sex begets sex, so throwing in a little masturbatory stress relief for yourself can help grease the wheels for when you jump in the sack with your husband. A good vibe can help you look forward to your solo sessions.

And by all means, don't forget the non-sexual physical connection with your partner. It helps you feel connected and the research says it leads to more sex. Why not lock the door and give each other a massage or at the very least a foot rub with your Netflix on the couch? There are plenty of oil and lotion options to try out and who knows? Maybe it'll get to do double duty as a little lube if things get frisky.

Sincerely,

Dr. Kat

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5 Ways To Hack Your Holidays & Have More Sex! (continued)

Our readers shared their favorite hacks for keeping the holiday season super-steamy.

1) You're Too Full From The Big Holiday Meal. "I don't like skipping sex or dessert," says Sheila O. "So I have both." But isn't it tough to get close after you've eaten huge helpings of Aunt Myrtle's turkey? "No, no, it's all about finding the right position. Something that doesn't put pressure on your stomach. Try it with both of you laying on your sides. Go slow. Speed is not your friend."

2) Your Schedules Are Insane. When it's hard to get even an hour to yourselves, it's even harder to set the spark for more. Adam & Eve fan Ken D. and his wife work lots of overtime during the holidays, and so have mastered the art of the quickie. "I'll send her a dirty text. If she's available, we'll run home on our lunch or dinner breaks and meet up for a quick round. It's awesome. It feels like you're getting away with something."

3) You're Never Alone. Between children, rotating relatives, and well-wishing friends dropping by, you have zero time to cuddle up together. Bob and Dara L. fight fire with fire. "You've got to make plans for them. You ask [relatives] to take the kids to go see Christmas lights or caroling, you talk your Mom and Dad into letting the grandkids sleep over, you tell your friends you're sick, say whatever you need to say to get the house empty."

4) You're Beyond Stressed. Is your to-do list a mile long? Bettie W. fights the stress with plenty of relaxation and a few personal treats. "Hot baths, yoga, and I order a bunch of new sex toys." Like what? "I finally got a We Vibe. That's the one you can wear while he…" She just giggles. "I've been using it a lot by myself, too." Luke T. agrees with the strategy, but he prefers long runs, home brewing, and more visual stimulation. "Even when we're tired, I can put on a dirty movie. We always end up too horny to keep watching."

5) You're Too Busy Trying To Shop For The Perfect Gifts. Of course Adam & Eve readers might be a little biased, but they tell us they rely on Adam & Eve to make their holidays very merry. "I get her two kinds of lingerie. A little silky nightgown she can wear all the time, and something crotchless she can wear for me," Randy R. reports. Victoria C. likes "Games. Like sex dice and cards. We end up doing things we'd never thought of doing." Ann M. travels a lot. "I got him a Fleshlight last year! He was shy at first, but now he'll use it with me over the webcam when I'm away." Tim Y. has his eye on a swing. "That's going to be one serious surprise."

Are you all set for Christmas morning? Adam & Eve is always right here to get you the gear you need. Order 24/7 right from our website and be ready for happy, happy holidays.

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Make Your Holiday Shopping A Breeze! (continued)

5. Clone-A-Willy Kit
One of our most popular items, this kit comes with everything you need to make a realistic replica of a penis. It works best with another set of hands so it's even something you can do with your partner. This makes a great gift for soldiers being deployed overseas or anyone else who has to be away from home a lot.

4. Under the Bed Restraint Kit
A fun gift for anyone curious about trying bondage, these kit is great for beginners. The restraints slip on and off easily and don't come with any pesky locks or keys. It fits discreetly underneath your mattress so it's ready to go in seconds. And you can hide it just as fast the next morning.

3. Extreme Toyz Collection
Loaded with a huge assortment of items, this collection is a great way to try multiple types of sex toys to find out what you and your partner are really into!

2. Adam & Eve Magic Massager Deluxe
The new & improved version of our classic wand massager now features 8 different vibration modes and a re-design to make it more durable and more fun than ever. The magic massager is one of our most powerful vibrators and can thrill men and women alike. It even doubles as a great back massager.

1. Rotating G-Spot Rabbit Vibe
Rabbit vibes are popular worldwide for their ability to stimulate multiple erogenous zones at the same time for unbeatable pleasure. Some women never had an orgasm until they started using a rabbit vibe. Just remember to offer to help the lucky lady try her new gift out after she opens it up!