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Adam & Eve's Monthly Newsletter - August 2015 (Continued)

This month Adam & Eve asks…
Which kinky college class would you ace?
Male Anatomy 101: Blowjob Basics
Communication Studies 103: Talking Dirty
Archaeology 209: Exploring the Clitoris
Erotic Film Studies 205: Contemporary Porn Stars
Independent Study 105: Solo Sex
Phys Ed 109: Sexy Strut
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Sex Position of the Month

Sex Position of the Month (Continued):
The Siren Song

Enchant your lover with your siren-like wails in this fun-filled position! Start with the man lying flat on the bed. The woman then lies down on top of him, holding herself up with her arms, so she can rock up and down on him. This dominant position allows her to set the pace and depth, while the man just gets to lie back and enjoy it! He can also easily access her butt and her breasts to provide extra stimulation during sex.

Dr. Kat

A&E's Resident Sex Expert: Dr. Kat (Continued)

Your questions answered Dr. Kat Van Kirk, a board certified Clinical Sexologist and licensed Marriage Therapist. This month's question is…

Q&A: Kink

Dear Dr. Kat,

I do a lot of online dating that often turns into sex. I definitely have a variety of sexual interests but when asked if I'm into "kink", I'm never sure how to respond. I'm a bit remiss to admit that I'm not even sure how to define kinky behavior. Is it the super fringy sex stuff or does it include more than that? And what if I want to do kinky stuff but a partner doesn't?

Thank you,
Taylor

Dear Taylor,

What does it mean to be kinky? Well, there seems to be quite a spectrum of answers when it comes defining it. It all seems to be very subjective. What seems kinky to you may be par for the course for the next person. It can run the gamut from sex toys, to BDSM, to dirty talk to role playing -- and many things in between, but what if you end up coupling with someone more vanilla? What then?

If one partner is on the kinkier side it doesn't necessarily mean it is a bad thing for your relationship. It can actually be a great way for those of us who are more vanilla to break out of shells and experiment with something new. It can also be a way of feeling closer to our partner. This being said, there may be behaviors that your partner is just not open to doing and that is ok too. You should have enough sensitivity to work into these behaviors as well as be ok with some hard and fast boundaries. Many people into kink have learned to be very good negotiators sexually as very few people have exactly the same proclivities.

The key is give and take. Open a dialogue about what really turns the both of you on -- just don't do it while you are in the middle of having sex. Be honest about what scares you and why. Lots of people who think of BDSM assume that it's all whips and chains but in actuality there are a whole spectrum of behaviors from mild spanking to light bondage with silk ties. It's up to the person who is into kink to be aware and know what they are doing; while it is the vanilla person's responsibility to remain open and communicate their needs. For instance, most people in the kink community know that it is the "bottom" or the person having things done to them that is actually in control of the play. Therefore, it is totally appropriate to introduce your sexual interests but be willing to work with your partner's boundaries.

Sincerely,

Dr. Kat

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Savor The Flavors Of Summer! (Continued)

Back To School Kink: Re-Starting Your Role-Playing (Continued)

It's possible you haven't been kinky in months. You've been too busy taking part in more outdoor activities, enjoying longer daylight ours. Even wearing lighter summer clothing can take you away from the erotic moods of that good ol' dungeon.

Why do people like to get kinky? It's fun, it's drama (the good kind), and it's dirty, dirty, dirty.

Being "kinky" doesn't have to be anything you'd never do. It can be something you'd love to do, just with more creativity.

Now that it's back to school for everyone else, go grab a schoolgirl uniform, a ball gag and maybe a small whip or vibrator and let the evening frolics begin!

Popular Role-Playing Fantasies
• Headmaster and pupil, or headmistress and pupil
• Stripper and client, male dancer and customer
• Boss and secretary

Important Do's
• Both of you should dress the part. It's only fair. Trust us, you'll have more fun and as you share the effort, you'll also share the results.
• No matter what level of fantasy you pursue, have a safe word handy in case one of you need a break, because one of you has a habit of getting carried away?

Important Don'ts
• Don't humiliate, disrespect or abuse your partner during role-play. If both of you feel it's important to do so, talk about it ahead of time so both of you know why you're playing like this. But if you want your memories of role-playing to be fond, consider leaving cruelty out of it.
• Don't start immediately with severe bondage. Try simple, easy restraints that don't bind or cause painful discomfort. You can control each other without hurting each other.
• Role playing rape scenarios is a bad idea, even if you read it in an old Harlequin novel at the beach. You're both adults. If this is your wish, again make sure you have safe words to stop the scenario with.

Keep That Naughty Gleam In Your Eye
Role-playing can be as simple as a man with a vibrator playing "doctor." Or a woman dressed as a nurse giving him a prostate exam. He can be Christian Grey. She can be Anastasia. Or Anastasia's girlfriend. Role-playing can be as simple, or as complicated, as you both want. Just set aside the time, the place, and the fantasy that suits you both.

-- Compiled from Staff Reports

Breaking the Ice: 5 Cool Tips For Naughty Fun This Summer! (Continued)

Vibrator Shopping 101: Back To The Basics (Continued)

Other vibes, including rabbits, can stimulate multiple zones at once. Some are designed for couples to use them together, while others are better used when you're alone. You might even need a super quiet vibrator if you've got thin walls, curious children or nosy roommates. If you're not familiar with the different types of vibes, here are some of the most popular ones:

Rabbits: These multi-function vibrators are designed for vaginal and clitoral stimulation. The clit stimulator is usually shaped like a pair of rabbit ears.
Realistics: These vibes look and feel like a real penis for a life-like experience.
G-Spot: The tip curves upward so you can find and stimulate your G-Spot.
Wands: Some of the most powerful vibes on the market, these are designed for clitoral stimulation only.

The next question you need to ask is how big the vibrator should be. The last thing you want to do is open up your brand-new toy only to discover that it's too big to use! Generally, it's best to stick with an average-sized vibrator - something about 5 to 7 inches long and 1 inch wide. If you're used to bigger men, then feel free to try something larger. If you want an anal vibe, look for something a little smaller around 3 to 5 inches long and ¾ to 1 inch wide.

As you shop for vibrators, you'll come across a number of special features and options, some of which are about as useful as the proverbial screen door on a submarine. Based on our experience, here are the features you need to look for in a new vibrator:

A watertight seal: Although you still need to be careful when getting these toys wet, they tend to last longer and are easier to clean than non-waterproof vibrators. And that's not counting how fun they are to use in the shower, hot tub or pool!
Multiple motors: Toys with multiple motors usually have one that focuses on your clit and another on your G-Spot, allowing for stronger and more direction stimulation.
Multiple vibration modes: These vibrators come with a wide range of different speeds and even special pulsating patterns that are a lot more fun than the same old buzz over and over again.

We hope these tips helped you find the vibrator of your dreams. Have fun shopping… and even more fun trying out your new toy!