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Do WET DREAMS EQUAL CHEATING? Dear Dr. Kat, My husband has been hanging around his female co-workers a lot and has caused me to be suspicious, because he is now having nocturnal emissions. Is he really dreaming about them? What should I do? I am hurt and upset and he is upset, and doesn't want to talk to me, and I am the one who should be upset, not him. He claims he was dreaming about containers. Can that cause nocturnal emissions? Honestly I don't believe a word. Please reply, I am confused and feel like ending my relationship. Thanks, Dear Trinity, Relationships don't exist in a vacuum. This means that both of you, throughout your relationship with one another, will be exposed to a variety of variables in the world; namely, other people. It can be very natural to have attractions to someone else; in fact, it's healthy. We can't go our whole lives with blinders on and it definitely doesn’t mean anyone is going to act on these attractions. Having nocturnal emissions occasionally is also natural for many men, whether they are cheating or not. Women in fact have orgasms in their sleep regularly too; it's just that there often isn't any physical evidence like ejaculate. I'm not sure what you mean regarding his fantasizing about "containers" but literally, ejaculations/orgasms while sleeping can occur regardless of what someone is dreaming about. If he is clear with you that nothing inappropriate is going on, if you are both happy with other aspects of your relationship and if he doesn't have a history of cheating, then I personally would be compelled to believe him. I would encourage you to move beyond the jealousy and not make yourself suffer about the "what ifs." You may also want to examine why you are feeling this way for yourself. Are you trying to self-sabotage a good relationship for some other internal reason? Most people are more afraid of what they don't know, so if you are still concerned, why don't you ask to be included in some of the social gatherings with these women? Getting to know someone can tend to alleviate a lot of fears. Plus it also makes you more personal to his co-workers so they might be less likely to act on anything physical with your husband from their end - although I wouldn't focus on this. If he's not cheating it is understandable that he is upset. After all (according to him), the woman he loves is considering ending the relationship based on something he didn't do. Sincerely, |
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Candidly Speaking Is TV taking over your love life? It's not unusual to want flop in to bed and turn on the tube at the end of a long tiring day, but it takes a firm desire to keep the intimacy alive and a creative approach to doing so. If this sounds like you, here are my suggestions: 1. Watch TV in another room! Your bedroom should be reserved for sleep and sex. Watch your favorite shows in another room and then get into bed and cuddle. Take turns rubbing each others aching shoulders. It might put you in the mood! It's important that couples make love no less than every other week. It's what separates your relationship from that of a platonic friendship. And it's the act of making love that releases oxytocin, another important brain chemical that fosters feelings of trust and attachment. "You can stimulate oxytocin with touch", explains Dr. Fisher. "Hold hands while you watch TV, trade massages, or sleep in each other's arms." Studies suggest that sex raises testosterone levels, so the more sex you have, the more sex you desire, for men and women. Now turn off that TV! Candida Royalle is a former star of the blue movie screen who in 1984 created Femme Productions® and pioneered the genre of woman-friendly adult erotica. In 1999, she launched the Euro-designed Natural Contours® line of high-style discreet intimate products. She's the author of How to Tell a Naked Man What to Do: Sex Advice From a Woman who Knows; and a sought after speaker on topics ranging from how to have great sex to the politics of free expression. Royalle's product lines are available through AdamEve.com. For more information about Candida Royalle, visit www.candidaroyalle.com. |
3 Sexy Ways to Beat the Summer Heat The best places to have sex in summer are the same spots you head to when you want to cool off. And at the top of everyone's list is a swimming pool. We advise that you save any XXX pool games for after the sun goes down to cut down on any potential audience. But once you get started, there's a number of things you can do. Underwater oral sex is a huge thrill... especially if your partner's great at holding their breath. You can even use silicone-based lube for anal in the pool. Silicone lube is waterproof so it won't wear off in the water, and you can just wipe it away with a towel once you're done. There are a huge number of sex toys - from cock rings to rabbit vibrators - that are waterproof if you want enhance your aquatic sex experience. One last note of caution, we strongly suggest saving the skinny dipping for your personal pool so no one has to bail you out of jail. Another great spot to beat the summer heat is your local movie theater. While we're not about to suggest you have sex in the back, there are a number of other things you can do - like reliving your younger days and have a heated make out session. Or you and your partner can have some fun with a wireless vibrator. The mini vibrator slips easily inside her panties or her pussy, while the other gets to play with the controller during the movie. Buzz her pussy and clit at random times to see how many times she climaxes! Last on our summer sex list is the local ice cream store. While you could try to arrange a quickie in the walk-in freezer, you're better off just picking up a pint or two or your favorite flavors and taking them home. Then, you can cover your lover with a few scoops at strategic locations and create a tasty sundae made for licking. It will be some of the sweetest oral sex either of you have ever had. |
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