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help you create a quiet, sensual place for you to bond with your nether region. But it doesn't just stop there, try nipple and anal stimulation. Some women are orgasmic through these areas too.

Once you know what you're working with you can begin to figure out what kind of stimulation gets you off, experiment with different masturbation techniques. If you can't seem to get aroused on your own, set masturbation time aside regularly. Burn some candles, buy some great lube and maybe try a few sex toys out. You'll begin to find that you'll establish masturbatory patterns. You'll find which techniques get you off the quickest and which cause more intense orgasms.

Don't forget about the importance of getting yourself worked up. Sometimes women relax so much into masturbation that they don't end up arousing themselves enough. Create some intensity by using fantasy, erotic literature, or sexy images. If you've never bought an adult video, buy one for yourself. After all, why should men have all the fun? Check out Adam and Eve's selection. Everyone says the brain is the most powerful sex organ for a reason, be sure you use it. Try focusing on a specific fantasy or behavior that turns you on while masturbating one time and then the next just focus on the sensation of what you're physically doing to yourself. Most women use a combination of fantasy and physical stimulation to reach orgasm.

After you've developed some comfort with your body and you know what arousal works for you, you can begin to branch out by trying other techniques like reaching orgasm through G-Spot and anal stimulation. Who knows you may even be able to have multiple orgasms or female ejaculate.

Not all of these skills you've learned through masturbation will be completely transferable to eventually orgasming with a partner. Many women have had to learn to orgasm the opposite way - first with a partner and then with themselves. But if you don't know what stimulation works for you, how can your partner? Anyway, the next main challenge to orgasming with a partner is learning to communicate your sexual needs and desires. Get used to asking for what you want (verbally and non-verbally ). Sometimes learning to talk dirty is a way to direct the action in addition to creating more arousal. When having sex with a partner, many women forget about themselves and focus completely on the other purpose. While some attention to your partner is great, don't forget about your own needs. You deserve pleasure too!

Sincerely,
Dr. Kat

 

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believe jealousy or friendship drama could get in the way of a fun and happy experience, you may want to turn to alternatives like dating sites and swingers message boards or meet-ups. Do remember to be patient, and take time to check out your potential matches thoroughly. Finding someone you're both interested and who is interested in both of you can be a challenge. (Note: if you're up for having a foursome, you may have an easier time meeting a compatible couple than a single person. )

3. Do The Deed. Depending on your personalities, you could go from first meeting straight to a hotel room for some freewheeling 3-way sex. Or if you're more cautious, you might want exchange some messages and even take your potential out for a date or two before you take things further. Don't be afraid to call things off if the chemistry doesn't feel right, and remember to check in with your partner often to make sure they're as enthusiastic as you are. Need some 3-way sex tips? Pick up a copy of Wicked star Jessica Drake's Guide To Threesomes DVD for a thorough XXX threesome tutorial.

And while you're working up to making those 3-way fantasies come true, you can always take home one of Adam & Eve's group sex adult movies. Or try out crazy toys like the Accommodator Dual Penetrator to simulate a group/double penetration experience with just the two of you.

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that helps maintain and regulate your immune system as well as improving its effectiveness.

Strengthen His Penis & Her Vagina Regular intercourse and orgasms affect the body just like regular exercise. To keep your penis or vagina functioning at peak condition, you need to orgasm at least three times a week for men and once a week for women. Regular ejaculation also improves the quality of his sperm, resulting in healthier and more active swimmers.

Fight Prostate Cancer Increased ejaculation, whether from sex or masturbation, clears out your urogenital tract and flushes cancer-causing toxins out of your system.

Relieve Cervical Problems A woman's cervix naturally opens during an orgasm, allowing it to flush out "bad" bacteria to prevent cervical and urinary tract infections.

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This makes Tristan Taormino's Guide To Kinky Sex For Couples DVD easy and fun to watch, especially with a partner. It's not "porny" like other DVDs created for the adults only audience.

Tristan brings a lifetime of sexual experience with her. She is the author of seven books, including the Firecracker Book Award-winning The Ultimate Guide To Anal Sex For Women. She's edited anthologies of erotic fiction and was a regular columnist for The Village Voice from 1999-2008 with a bi-weekly sex column called "Pucker Up."

In addition to lecturing at major schools and universities, Taormino has appeared on Ricki Lake, HBO's Real Sex, The Howard Stern Show and other television shows.

Tristan Taormino's Guide To Kinky Sex For Couples DVD is her 25th video project and like her other work, it's chock-full of information, ideas and empowering stuff you can use.

Reminding people to use "safe words" is just an example of the detail that goes into every DVD Tristan is involved with. If you haven't seen the DVD yet, a safe word is a word other than "no" that emphatically means "stop this." When you're experimenting with bondage a safe word can mean the difference between playfully exploring your boundaries or having a very, very bad experience.

Nearly every sensual kink, toy and activity is explained on Tristan Taormino's Guide To Kinky Sex For Couples DVD. "Why would anyone melt candle wax onto a woman's bare breast or ass, and how is that done safely?", you may ask. The DVD tells you that the farther away the candle is from the skin, the less heat carried by the melting wax. Instead starting on the breasts, try an area that isn't as sensitive first. Why hot wax? Because it changes up the sensations you feel. It's thrilling and stimulating. There's also some trust being built while one partner lets go of control.

By the end of the first scene of Tristan Taormino's Guide To Kinky Sex For Couples DVD, shot with professional porn stars Lyla Storm and Danny Wylder (who picked each other to play with ), you'll discover the most important concept of this amazing adult DVD – it's communication! Lyla and Danny talk to each other throughout each activity, learning and exploring and turning each other on… and perhaps you as well!